Why I help everyone, somewhat blindly.
In my 10+ years as a professional I have seen all types of people, makers, doers, thinkers, hustlers, geniuses, and dumbasses. At the onset of my career, I was really picky about who I helped via connecting people, chiming in on problems and taking meetings. So, in my guarded state, I would think about each persons needs, whether we could be mutually beneficial. In doing so, I would think about everything on my plate while hearing them out. After the fact, the mental filters continued, and I’d end up with these two piles: People to help and people to blow off — with about a 60/40 ratio. So what changed? The system worked well enough and I filed the effort under “networking” and let it go on for years. Then, a few years back, I realized this is a stupid game and I was no better than a hot girl in high school, getting away with bs. How did I effect change? 1. Better filters. You learn to spot A people way faster and way better (I’ll write my thoughts on this at some point.) 2. Help everyone you meet. If they pass the bullshit detectors, you’re better off with spray and pray. Why? For a bunch of cosmic reasons around being a good person — but to make it simple, it’s the long-term win. When I meet people and they tell me what they’re doing, in seconds, I can see where my immediate value lies for them. “Oh, you need to meet this guy” or “you should focus on this feature, it’s a better story” beyond that, look for a chance to use your super power. Your super power is the thing that (under the right circumstances) you are as effective and faster than 3 people working together on the same task. In my case, it’s often wire frames. I’ve made countless sets for some of the weirdest projects, I even do them slightly drunk just for fun sometimes. Do I go this far for everyone I meet? I said help everyone, not break your back for everyone. Everyone is looking for some immediate gain, which is fine. When you’re a start up on borrowed cash you need to make small wins everyday. Important note: Never give a monetary value to the good of your social currency. The second you assign a monetary value to a gift, it’s no longer a gift, and will be compared to other things of the same value thus becoming a a transaction. Because I jump to how I can help them, often the immediate reaction is “well, what can I do for you?” and 90% of the time, the answer is “nothing,” which blows their mind 100% of the time. Why? Because I have been helping people for long enough to where it’s rare that I’m in need. So, in this sense, I no longer have to look at the 60/40 ratio for comparison because it’s not the metric by which I measure my effort. When you work to make everyone around you happy, you find yourself in good hands.