For someone so quick to defend against judgement, you seem a bit hasty to judge an earnest philosophical response. I wasn’t judging her or even mean-spirited, just pointing out my concerns with the implications of making a balance sheet. Maybe she herself will eventually find it unsatisfactory as do I.
The Karpman drama triangle is a serious trap for victims of abuse, and by jumping on the bandwagon as “rescuer” and labeling me a “prosecutor” you only reinforce her status as “victim” instead of empowered survivor.
And, no, I’m not tone deaf either. Just consciously pointing out a concern with the act of making a balance sheet out of something much more serious than numbers.