Don’t resign yourself to things you can actually change
Do you agree we need more compassion in the world?
Yesterday, I attended a 4 hour training on the G.R.A.C.E. Model. It’s a brilliant approach to being compassionate without experiencing burnout. I intend to begin using it with my coaching clients immediately. Not that I’m going to teach it to them. This training only scratched the surface. I’m going to use it to protect myself from burnout while increasing the amount of compassion I show them. That’s the beautiful part.
There was one aspect of this training that I want to share with you, that I hope you’ll take the time to explore.
We partnered up, and took turns asking each other the following question. “What is it I need to know about you, that explains why it’s important to you to bring more compassion into the world?”
I was asked this question again and again for ten minutes. Each answer going deeper and deeper into the suffering I’d experienced throughout my life. Suffering that I’d learn to overcome and replace with the desire to show others how to do the same.
The bottom line for me was this. No matter how bad things seemed at the time. I refused to believe that was as good as it gets.
Whether it was being bullied as a child, living through cancer, getting divorced, you name it. I know things could be better and I insisted on hanging in there until I could create a better situation for myself.
I suspect that resilience would be the best word to describe that. Which is why resilience is one of the core modules I teach to my clients.
Find someone to pair up with and ask yourself the question, “What is it I need to know about you, that explains why it’s important to you to bring more compassion into the world?”
If you want to do it alone. You can modify it by changing it to “Why is it that I want to learn how to be more compassionate toward myself?”
This can be a powerful exercise for you.
Too often, people are quick to resign themselves to circumstances they can actually change. Phrases such as, “It is what it is” or “Life’s a bitch and then you die.”
Let me tell you this my friend.
Life doesn’t suck.
Life isn’t a bitch.
Yes, there is suffering in life.
But there’s so much more.
Please understand that any suffering, has another side.
A side of joy. A side of compassion.
But you must work through it to get there.
I’m happy to help you find your way there.