“It is good to have an end to journey toward; but it is the journey that matters, in the end.”
In 2017, I signed up for a 10K race as one of my resolutions to do something challenging. This would be my first race, and I was pretty stoked.
Weeks to the race, I received all race items, and I happily stuck them in a drawer to get to later. However, this never happened until I looked out my window one fine morning to see roadblocks being installed.
“Oh, the race is today”, I said. I had forgotten entirely.
Desperate to not postpone my goal for a later time, I had some eggs and coffee and walked hurriedly to the race venue. I got to the site five minutes to the race and quickly rushed to the start line where hundreds had gathered. There, my lessons…
Our lives are made up of millions of decisions: when to wake up, what to eat, who to date, where to work, and etc. In fact, it is estimated that an adult makes about 35,000 conscious decisions in a day — that’s a freaking lot — but I reckon many of these are trivial.
Decision making can be quite tricky. As Harvey Cox rightly puts it, “not to decide is to decide”. Essentially, we can’t evade decision-making once we are conscious and alive. …
Have you ever paid attention to why you decided to read a story? The most popular answer I bet would be the headline or title.
Research has found that readers usually decide whether it is worth their time to read a story through headlines or titles. As writers, crafting an accurate and catchy title is half the battle.
Truth is, valuable content gets buried in boring non-engaging titles so developing this skill is important.
But what must a title deliver? Well, two things essentially.
I will like to dwell on the first bit about interest and captivation and the psychology behind it. …
If you want to go somewhere, it is best to find someone who has already been there — Robert Kiyosaki
You know by now that writing is hard. All writers, beginners and experienced agree. We share common struggles in our journey.
But this is good. It means we are not alone.
Successful writers by mapping out their journeys have lessons to give us. Lessons to avoid their pitfalls and help us run where they fell.
Here is what they have to say :
In the end, it’s about enriching the lives of those who will read your work, and enriching your own life, as well. It’s about getting up, getting well, and getting over. Getting happy, okay? Getting happy.” …
Anxiety gets a bad rap. It is mostly, if not always associated with a negative feeling.
We have all experienced it at a point in our lives. It makes us vulnerable; sapping the life out of us and and exposing us to our fears. As Charles H. Spurgeon has said “Our anxiety empties today of its strengths.”
Anxiety has many roots. I dare not delve into roots caused by medical and genetic conditions as I’ve no expertise on such. I speak about the anxiety from life and its day-to- day struggles.
In recent past, I managed to unearth the source of my anxiety through deep introspection. …
There is something about advice: you hear it but the message sinks better when you don’t take it and the unwanted consequences get you.
If you’ve read about writing a bit, especially here on Medium, one advice you’ll definitely come across is to write consistently — no matter what.
In other words, ditch the perfectionism. The quantity will ultimately
yield quality— in most cases.
Personally, writing my first medium story was daunting. I was worried about whether it was good enough — whether it perfect.
After overcoming that initial fear, writing got easier and ideas for things to write about were endless until I took a break. …
In today’s world, a hello from a stranger can be considered a rare gem. We’re constantly retreating into a virtual world in the name of connecting better. Personally, I think we’re failing because we’re doing it all wrong. I believe the virtual world needs to complement the physical and not replace it.
Think about this: we spend hours and hours creating content and investing money to connect with people far away when the real opportunities lie with the people we pass by everyday.
I don’t want to sound like some motivational book or preacher so I’m not going to use the “people are your network” and other known connect or networking quotes. …
Over the last few months, I've undergone some positive internal emotional and psychological changes. I owe most of it to the motivating and life-changing books and podcasts I’ve taken time to imbibe. I can confidently say that I’m content, a lot happier and less prone to anxiety than I was a few months back.
As much as I would like to write about my newly acquired state of contentment and happiness, I would like to share something more beneficial.
I realize that my new state of contentment and happiness has drastically improved my ability to love and support the people I come across daily. In essence, the people I have interacted with within this period attest to the enormous help and support I have given them. …
“You’re either growing or dying. Stagnation does not exist in the universe.” — Steve Siebold
Today, I had an epiphany! An epiphany whilst doing something in my comfort zone: reading and working whilst in bed.
If I had to choose between sitting up and working from a desk and a bed , I would choose the latter.
Working from my bed has become part and parcel of me — it is my certified comfort zone and I have been doing this for about ten(10) years. …
Yesterday, I did something I’ve heard people talk about but never thought I would do.
I unfriended and blocked someone on Facebook. It was my first time.
It’s funny how I thought I would never need that unfriend and block button.
Because I know I’m way too polite and accommodating and secondly, I hardly let anyone into my space without some background check and cursory scrutiny.
So what happened this time?
For the individual I had to block, I didn’t personally know. …