Tell me something. Have you ever felt alone? Of course you have. It’s a normal thing to feel at least once in your life. It’s not a good feeling especially if you are in a crowd of people. You don’t know what to make of it. You’re just standing around doing nothing unsure of what to do.
Now tell me, have you ever gone to a bar alone? No. That’s crazy. You can’t just do that because then you’re just drinking alone instead of being in the comfort of your own home. It’s the worst. You’re surrounded by people who all know each other and are having a good time.
That was me back in August of 2016. I had just moved back home for good. Only this time I was living alone. My friends were all still in school so they were either busy or still moved away and the rest I left behind in Toronto. What was I supposed to do? I’m not one to just stay in when there’s nothing to do. But, I got lucky. I have a stepfather and an aunt who are both highly social. So, I decided to go out with them one day to a jam being held at one of the local bars. It was a Sunday afternoon so it shouldn’t have been to crazy. Like many times before, I was wrong. The place was packed. Everyone there was either a musician, dating/married to one or was just friends with one. It was incredible. I have never seen something like it before. Almost as if we bought tickets to this event months in advance but, we didn’t. This was 100% free…sort of. This was also the day I started spending more money on booze than food but that’s not the point. The point is: all these people came out to this local bar to hear other people play the same songs as always and they will be coming again the following week and every week after. It’s more than a good time, it’s comforting. It’s a community being brought together over music from the 60’s/70’s and a bit from the 80’s. It’s what got me to go the next time it was happening.
For me, it only took less than a month for the regulars notice me and that’s when I knew that moving back home was one of the smartest decisions I have ever made. I know that I have not been happier when I’m at the bar listening to one of the local bands that’s playing.
That’s actually not true.
I’ve never been happier than when I became friends with the band and listening to my friends play at one of the local bars.
That’s the thing about going to see local bands play at the bars. Once accepted into this community (and it’s not hard to get accepted), you will never feel alone again. It’s more than “being a regular” at the bar. It’s finally being able to live out your “Cheers” fantasy. Don’t say you’ve never had one. We’ve all wanted to be Norm. Going out to support local bands and being accepted into the music community makes you feel like Norm from “Cheers” except everybody is Norm and it feels amazing.
When I moved back home I felt that it was going to be like high-school. Being around a bunch of people that I wanted to avoid because I know what they think of me. What I got was the exact opposite. I have finally found a group of people who accept me for all that I am. I don’t have to hide my “quirks” for these people.
All I have now is because of music. All I have now is because I decided to go out to see my family and ended up gaining a new one.
It’s so much more than supporting the band’s and listening to music. It’s finally being a part of something greater. Going to a place where everyone knows your name (and yes, I did just quote the “Cheers” theme).
The music community is the family you want to choose.