Don't be afraid to love it makes the world go around

The subject got your attention didn't it…I can guarantee so many of you just had to see what I have to say about not being afraid to love. I can guarantee so many of you are reading this right now because when you thought something with someone was so amazing but it didn't grow and it didn't result in a rewarding and fulfilling relationship simply because he/she just wasn't ready for love.

The line “ I'm not ready for a relationship” in my opinion is nothing but bullshit and an easy escape after someone got what they needed out of you and were quiet happy to move along to the next best thing. I can tell you one thing right now and that is you are always always ready for a relationship because what person in their right mind will give up something totally amazing for the chance someone else could have it? That’s what I thought… You don't, period. If you just purchased a pair of jeans that did the job, they were nice but two stores down you tried on the most amazing pair of jeans that had so many benefits, made you look and feel 10x better and were reduced from $320 to $60 would you pass that up because you already purchased jeans that morning? I can guarantee most of you wouldn't, you would purchase them both knowing you got a good deal or at least return the average pair of jeans and do you know why? It is because we are human beings with a somewhat selfish nature when it comes to our own happiness and fulfillment so please tell me again why you would give up an amazing person because you just were not ready for a relationship? Oh you wouldn't, of course you wouldn't…..

Just be honest, how simple it is yet how rare at the same time. I believe in the importance of not wasting someones time when you know that your intentions with that person are far from what they truly want with you. Listen to this for example, you meet someone and the attraction between you two is intense, the chemistry is magical and the conversations are deep and you spend every couple of nights together and your days are spent reading texts that make you feel like your truly cared for and excited for your day to end to go and be in their arms. A few weeks go by, and the attraction gets stronger but only for one of you. The person that is loosing interest doesn't speak a word, the texts get shorter, the ‘ I'm busy tonight’ gets more and more common, the conversations are no where and the actions are so very obvious that the interest is being lost but at the same time “ everything is okay”. We live in a generation now where we don’t speak about the truth and what we are feeling, we simply wait and figure it out on our own or have to piece together all the little bits of what we are shown and come up with our own scenario because no words are spoken. The saddest part is your generally know as a ‘ headcase’ and that is purely because communication is lost when we don't want to reject someone and we have to make an understanding of the situation our self. I can’t express enough how strongly I believe in just speaking the truth, don't say the ‘ It’s not you its me’ that is the oldest line in the book and far from the truth. I can guarantee if we were all completely honest with why we feel we were not a good match to one another the world would be a happier place because two people may be perfect but just not perfect for each other and that is okay. It is not okay to keep someone to yourself when you know its going no where, you are being cruel and wasting not only your life but most importantly theirs.

The risk, who likes the word risk? We are always taught when growing up to be safe and to take care of yourself and don't do things that are to dangerous, well doesn't that backfire when your an adult. If you didn't take risk’s you would get absolutely no where. I have been in a situation where I had come out of relationship that was my one and only true perception of love and wow what an intense feeling and without that I probably couldn't write this because I would have no idea of the power that two human beings can do for one another. I spent years after the end of that relationship figuring out who I was as a person, what my life plan was and how to become strong again after I was weak. I spent my days thinking, wondering and trying to understand why that love couldn't last forever, and some things are just not meant to and that is okay.

It has taken a significant amount of time to accept what was, embrace what is and be ready for what is to come. I spent a lot of time bettering myself, accepting myself and transforming my life and my mind into nothing but positivity and understanding that not everything in life will be good, but there will be something good in everyday. There is something in every person you meet that you can take away from them and that is empowering.

Please do yourself a favor and let down your guard when something feels right, to many people pass up incredible connections for the risk that it may be like a past relationship that left them broke and broken.

No two people are the same, we all know this but do we really know this when your interested in someone else again? Is it just a thought of yours that you cannot experience another relationship because the pain from the previous person has left you feeling nothing but doubt for the next chapter of your life?

Let’s be honest, no one wants to be alone. We all value the time we spend alone and for a big part of your life it is essential to grow and have a connection with your inner self. I love my time alone, I do things for myself that ensure I am a kind and humble person and I am grateful I understand that. Ask yourself this? Do you want to be alone forever? or is just because you are predicting failure before anything even begins?

Check out all of these images throughout this blog, I photographed them all. All of these moments were love, whether that be self love, love for your children or love for your partner… its love and all of these images that I could capture and give to these special people were a result of each and everyone of them taking a risk in the first place.

I guess my biggest desire with this blog is to encourage and to show that I do understand why pursuing love can be hard, it can be scary but it can also be the most amazing experience of your life and one that may never end. When you fall hard and deeply in love you then not only receive a life partner you receive a best friend, a soul mate and the other part of you that you never knew was missing in the first place.

To you reading this right now… Good luck. If you are single, good luck with your future, your goals, your dreams and finding that one person that makes you feel like they were always always meant to be in your life. I hope you have a million smiles, a million giggles and create a beautiful family with many years of happiness to come.

To you that is single I hope you learn to love yourself first, I hope you understand that you have so much to offer someone else. I hope that you are confident and believe that you can make someone so incredibly happy.

If you are in a relationship I hope you hold onto that love for the rest of your life. I hope you embrace every smile, every touch, every kiss…. I hope you show your appreciation to one another and I hope you never go to bed on an argument. I hope you realise not everything will be peachy but everything will be worth it if you both put the required effort in every single day and never forget that you fell in love and you can remain in love.

Oh and I hope your not afraid to fall in love because it makes the world go around — Brit xx 23/4/16