It’s okay to be single.

This blog may seem like it contradicts my previous blog titled ‘ Don't be afraid to love it makes the world go around’ but what if you just haven't found that person, what if you want to fall in love but haven't stumbled across that intense and wonderful feeling of falling for that one person that lights up your world? This blog is for all of you that are single and for all of you to realise that it is simply okay.

One of the biggest lesson’s I have taken from not only my best friend, soul mate and biggest fan also known as my Mother is the biggest lesson of all. Do not settle for less than you deserve. Do not settle for less than amazing and do not settle for somebody that treats you like your replaceable. I am single myself and have been for some time now and the last year has been so empowering for myself as a human being that I truly believe I am meant to be single at this point to create a wonderful, kind and caring human being within myself for the next man that enters my life that I hope will be the last. If you are single please learn to love yourself, please learn to be filled with so much self love and happiness that you don't need someone else to make you feel that way but if they do enter your life you can be the best version of yourself for them.

We all want to feel loved at some point and for those that say the single life is perfect for them is simply because there is no worries and no drama and is a reflection of what previous relationships have done and diminish the idea of the next being captivating, amazing and a positive influence in their life. There is no way you can say to yourself someone to hold at night, listen to your worries, listen to your excitement and laugh endlessly with should be pushed away because you just want to be single…

If you really want to fall in love I hope you genuinely have that much self love that you have never been happier but would be open to the idea of changing your life to allow for a new relationship to grow. I can’t express enough the importance of being content with yourself, believing in yourself and your capabilities and knowing how important and beautiful you are to this world. It is okay to be single but please do not think for a second you are single because no one will want you, you don't want anyone you want that one person that will change your life forever and make the sun shine when its raining.

As you can see in the image above I took control of my life and started working towards the body that I desired. I found the one that that made me feel powerful and in control of my life and that is lifting weights and staying active. I cant express enough how much strength you receive from doing things others will not do. I cant express enough how amazing you feel when the results keep coming you have less time to worry about ‘ body image” and more time to focus on another area of your life, for example your career.

When you create momentum in your life everything becomes habit. It is a habit of mine now and one of the most exciting times in my day to head to the gym after work and work on myself for myself that one day may just be for someone else as well. I am completely happy with who I am as a person and do honestly think I have a lot to offer somebody and have times where I wonder why I just haven't met him when so many people around me are and it comes back to the same thing for me, it’s okay to be single because timing is everything and life has a plan for you. Be patient.

Its okay to be single but its not okay to blame yourself for it. It is simply not okay to say cruel things to yourself like ‘ no body will want me I am just me’ or ‘ I have nothing to offer him/her anyway’ that is your first and biggest mistake. It is essential to have confidence within yourself. You must find the strength mentally to take control of your life and your thoughts because for a potential partner that is a given ;you may just happen to become the mother/father of their child…remember that. I understand how hard that may seem if you are in a dark place but nothing ever stays the same so make the change you want to see if yourself.

It is okay to be single but get out of your own way at the same time. Is it possible your single because you have put a massive wall up around yourself that doesn't allow a person in ? We are in a generation where we put walls up around our self for protection so you don't get hurt but its at a big risk of not experiencing love as well…. seems crazy doesn't it ! It’s okay to be single but don't be single wanting to be loved yet at the same time the aura you have around yourself is that obvious others don't even see the point in trying with you, the tough act of not needing someone wont be so tough when all your friends are happily in love, starting families and your still heading off to the night club on a Saturday night looking for temporary fulfillment in somebody else for around 8 hours….

As I mentioned earlier its okay to be single because the time you have to start creating a future for yourself and work towards your goals is all practice in getting everything you have ever wanted, that is a great trait to have when your pursuing love as you know first hand nothing good gets given to you without hard work. When your single you have the focus on your career in the last 10 months I have been so incredibly blessed with the most amazing job that I barely even call a job because not a day goes by in my 60 hour week that I wish I was anywhere else. I have personal goals within the company I work for and to be reaching them now since I started believing in myself is a true indication of why its so important to believe you can have everything you want.

Today is your day, embrace every moment of bettering yourself. Do not spend a moment of today wondering why you are still single it doesn't matter if your 14, 28 or 66 when love comes around it wont miss you. There is no age limit on love isn't that an incredible fact. I hope you have the ability to truly understand that life does its thing and if your content with yourself things will present them self in ways you previously couldn't have ever imagined..

Just remember, it is more than okay to be single and its certainly okay to be single simply because you want to be…. Britt xx 24/4/16