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The Handyman

I read with interest @ Dick Millet’s “Widower’s Tale” wherein he describes an unfortunate scene with a love interest about not wanting to be her “handyman”. I assume she was a single woman who was adjusting to not having a man around the house to take care of all the little projects involving things like ladders, hammers and screwdrivers. I get it. Being a single and disabled woman makes the gap wider in terms of needing someone who is just able bodied to do even the smallest projects.

I had a very handy husband for 28+ years. He moved out 3 years ago. I live with my 21 and 19 year old sons who are able to take care of the simplest things like changing lightbulbs. My husband still does a few projects here and there. But, there seems to always be some odd job that a handy man could do.

I am fortunate in that I can just call someone if needed, as @Dick Millet suggests to his girlfriend in the story. He was dealing with a lot of pain from his past and was having trouble controlling an angry outburst. Still, I recognized how a man could actually not want that sort of a relationship with a woman.

As much as it is sometimes tempting to let a boyfriend step in and take care of all manner of handyman projects around my house, I realized last weekend that that isn’t the kind of relationship I want, either.

Fixing things around the house can make a man more endearing, but I prefer to build a relationship based on mutual love, respect, and a shared vision for the future.

Thank you for reading :)