What not to do after you have kids and why I still want to have more little angels
One day you decide you want to have kids. It doesn’t matter if you want them for religious reasons, or if you want them just to prove to yourself that you can reproduce like nobody else does, or if you just cannot wait to start being the real boss. You just decide, go there and press the button that makes babies and boom. Nine months later you have a mini version of yourself. Clap. Clap.
Just to clarify, I really don’t mind if you don’t want to have kids (you can still read this article though). I have two of my own and plan to have more in a distant future but this is me. I have to agree that having kids is not for everyone. It’s hard work, it does cost money and like people say: the world doesn’t seem a good place to have kids anymore. Bare with me.
So let’s assume that you had kids. You have them and there is nothing you can do but raise them with all your love and patience. Patience. First thing you have to have when you have got kids. They take up a lot of space in your life (and in your house, in your car) leaving you with nothing left. No patience, no cleanliness and no money. Joking!
They are not that bad really. But once you have them, it is totally up to you to re-build your own life. Because everything changes in a blink of an eye, I am telling you! You end up forgetting who you were and who you became looks like someone you had promised you would never look like.
You get pregnant and after the 40 long weeks you wait, I promise, time will never go slow anymore. As they say “the days are long but the years are short”. Time will fly. So I am here just to give you a hug and say “it will pass”. There is no struggle that endures forever (and even if does exists such a thing, you learn how to live with).
We get to know our kids and the relationship tends to get better and easier with time. However things tend to be pretty much very cyclical. We have good days, bad days, and when you think you cannot handle anymore, bang. There is a light in the end of the tunnel. And you can breathe again. And then the light goes of. And on again.
Even for those who won’t have kids for no matter what reasons, I have to say: I still want to have more. One, or even two more of them. I know I am still in the process of trying to survive the initial years, but kids are great craic. We learn that we are not the centre of the universe and that offering our lives to a bigger picture it is a wonderful thing. Just please don’t forget your patience on the way. You gonna need it.
