How to Break the Cycle of Negative Self-Talk That’s Holding You Back in Your Career

I spent one third of my career as a management consultant. It was a great experience filled with a lot of learning and a lot of tough moments, too.

That means I was paid to find what is wrong, root it out, and figure out a better path forward. It made me a great problem-solver, but it had a downside–I (and others in similar jobs) was being conditioned to point out the negative in everything I saw.

The thing is, we all do this, especially with ourselves. Listen to how people talk about their workload or the hours they work…


What do you do when the perfect job stops being so perfect? Ask yourself these 5 questions to help figure it out.

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We have all had bad days at work–whether you screwed something up, got yelled at, had to fire someone or lost a big account. But have you ever had a bad year?

In a recent interview with a C-level executive who is nearing his retirement, he said, “I have been here for 31 years, and only one of those was bad.”

You could say, “One out of 31–that is pretty good! His career scores a 97% for good years.”

While it is pretty good, the idea of an entire year being bad is tough to swallow–especially if you are in…


Learn This Exec’s 9 Keys to Success

With all the activity in the electric car space, there are a number of innovative solutions coming together to charge all those cars. One of them is Volta Charging, who recently won the 2017 Cynopsis Social Good Award for Best Environmental Initiative. Volta is building a network–the largest in the U.S.–of ad-supported, free charging stations. Free charging is a major driver of electric car adoption, so Volta is helping to reduce our carbon footprint even faster.

One person at Volta helping them grow is VP of Operations, Jon Michaels. Jon has held various roles in the energy sector, but started…


Uber has done a lot to transform transportation for millions of riders, and create flexible job options for drivers. It has been such a success story and driver of change in a stagnant industry that “the Uber of [fill in the industry name]” has become a common phrase to describe startups that are trying to disrupt their space with lofty expectations of success–like the Uber of Dog Walking (yes, that is a thing).

It has also been at the center of a lot of controversy. From gender biases and sexual harassment, to a law suit by Google, to law suits…


Mentors can help you build your career as a leader, but to really help you grow, they may need to be tougher than you want.

Having a mentor can have a tremendous impact on your career. The right one can help guide you through complex situations, work on self-growth and development needs, advocate for you and more. Most people with positive views of their mentor tend to have relationships with them that are very supportive and encouraging. Those are great things to have in a mentorship relationship. However, you can cross the line to where it becomes counter-productive.How could a positive relationship with someone who cheers you on and stands by not be helpful? That sounds backward.

The reason is that a key difference between…


I’ve traveled a lot over my career. It’s often an every-week situation with two to four flights, hours of driving, multiple hotels, early mornings and late nights, and plenty of meals on the go. When I say I’m an experienced road warrior, I mean it.

I was also obese as a kid. When you combine that with my business travel, people always ask me how I’ve kept from becoming overweight again.

More relevantly, I’ve kept the grind of travel from leading to a downward health spiral that decreases my ability to perform in a high-stress job.


Many of us end up living our lives like we’re employees — and it does not have to be that way if you know how to change the game

Adulthood is full of lots of amazing things, including responsibility. But it is a double-edged sword that can lead you down a path of all the Have To’s like paying bills, cooking, cleaning, running errands and more. If you are not careful, pretty soon your life outside work becomes another job, full of tasks you have to complete.

What is the alternative? These things do need to be done, and if you do not do them, who will, right?

The alternative is living your life.

It sounds hokey and maybe a bit idealistic. But it is possible.

As an adult…


Rather than distracting you from it, having a side project that speaks to your interests and passions could help you be even better your day job.

Many of us love our jobs. Many more of us may not — or may not right now. We go into it with the right intentions, but as time passes, what was once exciting and new becomes repetitive and draining. As we get more experienced at a company, we get loaded on with more responsibility that might take away some of the freedom we once felt.

The result can be that we start to burn out (at least a bit), and may end up less productive, or feeling less productive.

This is a recipe for destruction — either we end…


Rather than distracting you from it, having a side project that speaks to your interests and passions could help you be even better your day job.

Many of us love our jobs. Many more of us may not — or may not right now. We go into it with the right intentions, but as time passes, what was once exciting and new becomes repetitive and draining. As we get more experienced at a company, we get loaded on with more responsibility that might take away some of the freedom we once felt.

The result can be that we start to burn out (at least a bit), and may end up less productive, or feeling less productive.

This is a recipe for destruction — either we end…


Doing this exercise can help you understand what you really want in your next job so you can go find it.

Years ago, I was looking for a new job, and could not really figure out what to do. As a management consultant, I could see myself doing lots of different things, and was having trouble getting my story to resonate with the Human Resources people screening resumes. The problem was, I had no clear direction in what I really wanted to do or why I–above all the other candidates–was the right person for the job.Then …

Bryan Falchuk

Author of Best-Seller @doadaybook, @NASM Certified Personal Trainer & Behavior Change Specialist, @Inc Columnist, Speaker, Life Coach, @TuckSchool MBA, Vegan

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