I would be exceptionally embarrassed to attend a wedding without a gift of some sort so there is no wording that would make me feel relieved of gift-giving responsibilities. My parents fretted over what gifts we should bring when we were just visiting a friend’s house.
I read in Mindy Kaling’s new book that she is definitely a gift person and is not acclimated to giving money at weddings. And while giving money is the norm where I’m from, I would still throw a bone to people who feel more comfortable giving gifts. We haven’t finalized a registry but it’ll likely be composed of wine and books and random stuff we need replacing. Or specific honeymoon activities.