These are very good points and I have to add an addendum to my comment. You can be a feminist and move to a different city for love; however moving to San Fran does not make sense for this lady’s relationship. She has the high-paying not-portable job she likes in a low COL city. He is guaranteed to make very little money in a very-high COL city for many years, had to move anyway and there were opportunities for him to move near her that he turned down. If the genders were reversed, the student would have moved closer to the person with a job.