52 week “Life Word” challenge — 4. Behaviour

I am challenging myself as an absolute novice writer with no idea about blogging to start discussing and reflecting about my journey with ‘Life Words’ each week.

Life words are words commonly used to express our thoughts, feelings and behaviours to understand and connect with ourselves and with others to form deeper relationships. Yet, we are using these words understatedly, not realising the full value and power of Life Words. The power to change reality.
I am writing about Life Words to interpret into meaningful, honest and relatable context for deeper knowledge through my understanding and experience. My aim is to share and expand my ideas to connect with others and learn other perspectives of Life Words.

Life Word 4 — behaviour

Your behaviour is how you express your emotions visually. When you smile, it physically indicates you are happy. Or when you slam your fist on a table, it signifies anger and frustration. You can react or respond to situations based on how we think and act. Behaviours can overwhelm you and control how you think or inform you how to respond that takes account of people’s feelings. Recognise your actions and behaviours to understand how you are feeling at the moment and manage your behaviours to help yourself make better decisions in consideration of others.

Actions speak louder than words so your behaviour can be very powerful to impact others in an inspiring or destructive matter. Whatever the outcome, it will be long lasting, exhibit your true values and beliefs and you must be held responsible for the outcome. The way you act is aligned with who you are - from within, you have a set of values, beliefs and a core purpose which drives the decisions make. Influenced to behave and respond to situations in a certain way because of what you have formed internally.

There are common types of behaviours on how we respond; passive, aggressive, passive aggressive and assertive.

Passive behaviour is not entirely expressing your feelings and emotions. Accepting others to make the decision, not taking responsibility and letting others dominate you.

Aggressive behaviour involves expressing your feelings, opinions and needs in a way that attempts to control. Being persist with controlling the situation and people.

Passive aggressive behaviour is an indirect and dishonest expression of your feelings. You control situations and people in underhand ways. Manipulating others into meeting you needs.

An assertive behaviour is the ability to say what you want and don’t want. To speak your mind with honest and clear intentions, acknowledging the situation and people involved. This allows you to recognise how you should behave to reflect the environment and others. By taking on other people’s feelings into consideration, you build trust, rapport and respect.

In any situation, you have the choice to behave in a certain way that will have a negative or positive outcome. Be deliberate and intentional to deliver the behaviour that will be most appropriate for the situation and the people involved. Let your feelings inform the situation rather than control the situation.

Thank you reading and please leave a comment about your experience of the Life Word.