I don’t understand what you are asking people to do or understand. On one hand I think that you are saying for people to be sensitive to your feelings as a fat person. On the other hand, as one of the other comments stated, what if the situation is reversed and you were skinny, being unable to out on any kind of weight as you wished to?

Yet again on another hand, is one supposed to be quiet about their own feelings of inadequacy, to placate yours, while at the same time push you to be skinnier?

I do not ask these questions to be incendiary. I ask because I am really trying hard to understand what you wrote.