I love that Amanda Palmer brings this to light. For me, it’s wanting to feel like I fit in somewhere. The inclusive “we” keeps evading me in life. I have a hard time not blaming myself for all the reasons this might be my fault. But then I realize, like Amanda is saying, I’m making myself in to an “other.” And reject those I admire before they have a chance to reject me. When Jane doesn’t exist, I am not “other” they are not “other.” Fuuuckkk Jane!!!