Funny! We are continually told we must learn to love ourselves before we can love someone else. And now, you come to say that loving ourselves is not right. It’s seems a catch-22 to me. Honestly, I couldn’t read more than few paragraphs, so I probably missed the point of the post, but a lot of people need to make peace with their minds about many bullshits like self-love, polyamory and similar issues.