Caden Bloxham
Aug 8, 2017 · 2 min read

Hi Kris,

I think, like Alex Buck, that your insight has shown me that I have not been thinking about relationships properly. Or myself, for that matter.

I started on Medium by eating up all the self improvement and productivity stories I could, but not a lot of people (special shout out to Jessica Semaan, and others that I can’t remember off the top of my head) have really delved into how to be a whole human, and especially not in the way you have.

These days, I’ve followed the productivity tips I originally sought, and I’ve stopped reading those articles. But I still check in every day because your stories make me laugh, and they make me believe in overcoming my desire for validation.

Your shit is good, Kris. You come across as relatable, even though I will never be anything like you. Your advice on relationships is tangible and concrete. It’s real-world. It’s not theory. You’ve lived it. You’ve learned it. It shows. You add levity and lightness to things that are usually presented as heavy and somber. I find myself sometimes saying “Lightly, lightly…” to remind myself that something is not as important as I think it is, or just giving a snarky “Aiight, fam” because I think it’s hilarious.

Even though we’re both people on the internet, you actually sound like a real person to me, instead of a crafted persona. And maybe “a real person” IS your crafted persona, but that really doesn’t matter to me, because what you’ve written has been immensely valuable, regardless.

One day, you may fall into the category of “people I followed on Medium until their stories helped me orient my life” and I will stop pressing the ❤️ on (literally) everything you publish. Inevitably, you will stop publishing anyway. But I want to thank you for what you’ve done. It has helped me grow as a person in a way that very few things ever have. It has helped me understand myself. You just can’t put a price on something that helps you know yourself, you know?

I might be using this opportunity to soapbox about how much I love your writing, but I’m stoked to read it every day, and I absolutely dig the street art you include with every post.

You’re one of a kind, but you already know it, so, just, you know… keep it up, I guess?

Cool.

I’m glad I got to say that.

Thanks. Again.

Signed,

Just another internet dude, 23, single, gin, tequila, and spiced rum, in that order.

(that sounds more like a dating profile tagline than demographics, but whatevs.)

    Caden Bloxham

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