I’m not going to patronize you and give you a standing o for this very well written but flawed write-up, as my approach to this has nothing to do with feminism or patriarchy or gender politics. My trigger is clear and present — being a parent. As a father of three girls, who are already taller than most of their 4th and 1st grade classmates, this was a strong catalyst for thought and contemplation.
My general reaction is that as their dad, who is still a man, and is very well aware of the wahala (trouble) that the world has in store for my girls, I have to equip them with the tools to face them head on. When you head out there, don’t have your blinders on. Be aware, not paranoid. Be a badass when it comes to nuances of human interaction, but don’t be oblivious to the traps. You are empowered and beautiful, but the world can come at you hard at times.
I don’t give a damn what a man (or woman…I thought your decision to bypass that angle in these gender fluid times was interesting) is attracted to. What I give a damn about is my daughters’ well being, my wife’s, sisters’ and for women in general. As a black man, I put on armor when I leave my house every day to face the wahala. I will make sure my girls are equipped mentally and physically when they leave the house, ’cause there will be wahala coming their way too.
No apologies, and no cringing here.