11 Minimizing and De-cluttering Hard Truths and How to Overcome Them
Many of you may have made it a resolution to start on the minimal path this year. For that, I applaud you! It takes courage to realize that a change is needed. I’ve been at this minimizing and de-cluttering phase for a while now so I thought I would share some hard truths to those just starting out. Minimizing and de-cluttering is not easy to do. The typical person living in a western and consumer driven society does not realize how much stuff they are drowning in. Many are content to live day by day, paycheck to paycheck getting pulled to buy things that’s unnecessary and don’t provide any real and true value. Many of us have been conditioned to think that all of this stuff is OK, but it is not. It’s a burden to our physical, mental and emotional health.
Minimizing and de-cluttering is an individual journey and varies from one person to another. As you start out, keep these hard truths in the back of your mind as they will help you overcome obstacles. Whether you realize it now or later, these will become important realizations on your journey. I hope you keep them in mind so you can learn from now.
Today, my minimalism journey continues. I don’t see an end in sight. As each day passes, I re-learn what I value and I shift towards it.
Hard Truth #1: You will never be able to make back all of the money you spent buying stuff.
This ladies and gentlemen is called “sunk cost”. If you remember back to Econ 101, it means a cost that has already been incurred and cannot be recovered. I know it’s tough, but the world moves fast and what you value today may not be as valuable tomorrow. The key is to understand and know this as fact. It is also wise that if you are letting go of items, do it today. Don’t put it off. Take this hard lesson and learn from it. The next time you buy something, make sure it is something absolutely necessary that you will use and value for a long period of time.
Hard Truth #2: Most of your stuff will end up in a landfill someday. Accept this and learn new habits.
You may not want to let go of certain things because you don’t want them to end up unused and in a landfill somewhere, but no matter how old you get, this is going to happen. It doesn’t matter if you pass them to your children or your grandchildren, at some point, your stuff will break down, will no longer be needed and will be thrown out. The key is to understand this now so that you consume in a way that results in less of your items from going to the landfill. Choose items that last long, that can be reused over time and can be recycled in the end. That’s how you can prevent your stuff from going to the landfill.
Hard Truth #3: You are bad at predicting the future. That book, those pants will be outdated and out of style by the time you get to them.
How many of us see ourselves differently in the future? We think we will lose weight, we think we will suddenly take on a completely new style or finally have time to read and re-read all of those books in our shelves, but the truth is, this is rarely the case. Sure, some of you may finally get rid of those 10 extra pounds, but do you want to be wearing pants from 2 years ago. Are they even still in style? Do you flatter your new found figure, probably not! It’s time to admit that we need to let go of our idea of our future selves. Be happy with your present self and once your present and future self have caught up, then it’s time to get them those new pants.
Hard Truth #4: Family may not want your stuff. Don’t transfer the guilt of holding on to things to a family member.
I’ve done this before! I’ve given a bag of stuff to my sisters because it made me feel less guilty about letting go of items. But what I’ve just done is transfer the guilt of throwing out something to someone else because after all, if I don’t know what they do with it, it’s all good. But how fair is this? It’s my stuff, it’s my responsibility and it’s my guilt right? Right! Your family members are not a dumping ground for your stuff. The intention may be there to preserve items, but don’t burden your family members with more stuff. Understand that there is a difference between an heirloom and junk. Don’t pass down junk. I am sure they have enough stuff to worry about. Remove the middlemen and donate your stuff directly to an organization.
Hard Truth #5: Just because it’s free, it doesn’t mean it’s useful and needed.
Wait a minute! Free stuff doesn’t automatically mean it’s needed? Sorry to burst the bubble on this, but yes! Think long and hard before accepting a free item. Do you really need it? Can you afford having one more piece of unnecessary item in your home. If it cannot be used immediately, then it is not needed. Pass on it and let someone else who truly needs it accept it. Remember that even if an item is free to you, it will cost you in time and cognitive resources to figure out what to do with it. Don’t burden yourself!
Hard Truth #6: It’s worth more to you because it’s yours, but it may not have the same value to someone else.
See also Hard Truth #1! Whether we realize it or not, our stuff has value because it is ours. It may be associated with a feeling, an emotion, a memory so we place value in it, but when others see our stuff, these emotional connections are not there. Have you ever stopped by a garage sale and bargained to get something for a very low price? Think about how much value you placed on that object and think about the person selling it. Do you think they wanted you to have it for $1 knowing that it was perhaps the rocking chair their grandmother owned or it was the first toy their child held when they said “mama” or “dada.” This is the same with your stuff. It’s valuable because it’s yours and that’s OK, but when it comes time to letting it go, don’t assume others will find the same value in it.
Hard Truth #7: You’re keeping things because that’s what you’ve always done.
Oh the status quo! We prefer our current state because anything different will be a loss to us, but is it really a loss? Why do we choose to do nothing? What are we afraid of? If we dream of our future selves to be different, see Hard Truth #3, then why do we continually do the same thing and reject change? There is no progress without change. Instead of looking for a compelling reason to let go of things, look for a compelling reason to keep it. If there is none, it’s time to let go.
Hard Truth #8: You really only wear 20% of your wardrobe.
Go on dispute me on this! Here’s an experiment: each time you wear an item, hang it separately from the rest of your closet. After two weeks, please tell me how much of your closet has been used. (This doesn’t count if you have a capsule wardrobe already.) From here, figure out why you only wear 20%. Are the rest of the clothes out of trend, misshapen, needs mending, or no longer your style? If so, it’s time to let them go and start investing in quality pieces that will carry you through various trends. Trends come and go, but your personal style is unique to you and therefore timeless.
Hard Truth #9: You don’t need more organization bins. You need less stuff.
Contain yourself because this is the truth! If you can’t even find your stuff the way it is now, think about when it’s finally in boxes, stored away to be forgotten. Will you use things more frequently now? Most probably not. The thing about organization bins is that they are nice to look at on the outside, but they don’t answer the core issue of too much unnecessary stuff. They just hide stuff away which makes it even harder to use them, to appreciate them and to really know if you need them.
Hard Truth #10: You get rid of less items when others are around watching or “helping” you.
I know we want help with de-cluttering, but having a family member or friend around while you do this will actually be counterproductive. Why? Because during your purge, that family member or friend will spur an emotional response that will keep you from completing the task at hand. You may also feel guilty when you come across an object associated with that family member or friend that you are trying to let go. A part of minimizing and de-cluttering is a look at your inner self and it’s best to this internal reflection by yourself without potential judgement. It’s also a personal move that does not require an audience. So if someone offers to help, kindly decline the offer.
Hard Truth #11: Your old habits don’t define you.
Ok, so you have a house full of stuff accumulated through shopping binges, acceptance of free stuff and fear of change, but it’s not too late. You can minimize and de-clutter your space today and be able to re-focus on what matters to you. Your old habits can be changed. It may take some time, but this is where you have to start. You have to start letting go of the “what ifs”, the “just in cases”, the “this reminds me of” and actually start living and creating new memories. You’ll be able to do this more freely when your cognitive resources are not bogged down by the thought of stuff and clutter. Trust me you’ll thank yourself a year from now.
Interested in starting your own minimalism journey. Join Project: Be Minimal, a 6-month program that asks you to live simply. An action item will be issued each week that could take a few minutes to complete or it could be a recurring thing you have to do for the rest of the program. Each action item builds on top of each other. The goal is to chip at old habits slowly and form new habits. Sign-up at www.thedosomethingproject.com.
Originally published at www.thedosomethingproject.com on January 13, 2017.