Sex positivity, video games, animals, sunshine, and a whole lot of love. — Welcome! Here you’ll find: About Me Creative Endeavors Medium Writers Challenge Submissions Top Articles Favorite Articles About Me Hi friends! My name is Caitlin Jill Anders, and I’m a full-time writer living in Los Angeles. I’ve loved to write ever since I was a kid, and I’m very fortunate to be living out the dreams that…

When intrusive thoughts and a pandemic collide. — I got the text around 6:30 p.m. the night before I was set to fly home to visit my family. A friend I’d had dinner with a few nights before had just tested positive for covid. Almost immediately, my intrusive thoughts kicked in, and then I panicked. I called my…

Let’s talk about it. — I’ve had a lot of sex in my 31 years, and honestly, the “best sex I’ve ever had” is often changing. It’s not because the sex I have keeps getting better and better (although that’s true too), but mainly because my definition of what constitutes good sex keeps evolving. As…

Even though you desperately want to. — When I first started freelance writing, it brought me so much joy. I was so proud of myself. I had freelanced in the past, but the emphasis was always on the “free,” and even though I’ve always loved my full-time staff writer job, I also love telling stories and speaking…

Things I’ve heard on the subject and why I think they’re wrong. — Our society seems to have a lot of preconceived notions about the way sex is “supposed” to go, as if there’s a blueprint somewhere for the ultimate great sexual experience. It’s amazing the number of times I’ve been having a conversation about sex and someone realizes the way they’ve been…

I’m not trying to steal anyone from anybody. — “The guy that might come tonight is apparently really hot … quick, Caitlin, get in the closet!” I’ve heard comments like this quite a lot in my life, and I always laugh them off. Yes yes, Caitlin loves talking about sex and practices non-monogamy and wears a lot of low-cut…

My struggle as the naked neighbor. — I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again — I am the naked neighbor. I like to walk around my apartment naked and I’m really bad at remembering to close the blinds, mostly because I just don’t care. Plenty of people have seen me naked and nothing bad has…

Sexuality and self-acceptance are both such a journey. — For the longest time, I identified as heteroflexible. I was attracted to women, sure, but I’d only ever hooked up with them when there was a man involved too. I’d never really entertained the idea of dating women. It wasn’t something I’d done, so I guess I assumed it wasn’t…

“Taylor Swift” all the way through “Red (Taylor’s Version).” — I’ve never been the kind of person who follows artists religiously. Someone who listens to every album right at midnight, who buys tickets for every tour, who knows all the details about the artist’s career and personal life, who considers themselves a fan in every sense of the word. I’m…