The Kettle is Also Black
What kind of world are we living in when a person, let alone someone running for public office deems it appropriate to deflect attention away from their grotesque comments on sexual assault by parading women whom he believes to be victims of rape.
What is being said by this? Is it that Trump’s claims that he has the utmost respect for women are vindicated by the fact that he will only joke about sexually assaulting them, while others will act on it because I don’t really think that that’s an adequate conclusion.
I think it is a very human thing to appreciate the physical beauty and sexual prowess of other human beings. It is animalistic. There is a fear however that as the world becomes less and less de-sensitised to rape and sexual assault that these “locker room banter” exchanges become more prevalent, more acceptable and more grotesque. This de-sensitisation is partly due to the hysteria surrounded by the ever changing definition of sexual assault, which a lot of the time does more harm to rape victims than good. The hysteria, also, in turn enables people like Donald Trump to pass off his claims as “banter”.
I’ve seen and heard “locker room banter” and it at times has come from people I know, love and consider friends. Friends I would “ride sideways”, “fuck senseless” and friends who definitely “would get it”. This banter is farcical. Many of the things people I know say about the opposite (or same) sex are farcical, in fact the more farcical the better as it enables a much larger suspension of reality deeming the comments more acceptable. However the difference between our casual use of lewd language and what Trump has been caught saying on tape, is the implication of having used power as a means of coercion and degradation. The acts he discusses such as kissing women on the mouth and grabbing their pussies are not so much a declaration of sexual desire but more a tame, sick power play in an attempt to validate your own high status in society.
How can you condemn someone you believe to have committed the crimes that you like to joke or tell others you have committed as a means of getting approval or validation from your peers? How can what you condemn be also a means of pride and achievement, whether you committed the acts or not. Those women who claim to be victims of sexual assaults carried out by Bill Clinton deserve to be heard but not as part of a presidential campaign and not as leverage to deflect from your own triumphant misogyny.
The kettle is also black.