I see the truth, the love, the sadness you feel in this piece. I admire the strength it took to put this out there.
I know how hard it is to understand the pain of losing someone you thought you would be glad to be rid of.
I understand that final shock of the deep deep lack of understanding by those making the decisions. I am sorry the VA decided his death wasn’t service related. I hope you and your mother can find the strength to get the cause of death changed.