To the cis person angrily sharing news of the Trump transgender military ban

ID: “TRUMP” spelled out in scrabble tiles, on top of blank tiles (CC0 Public Domain)

Hi. If you’re a cisgender person angrily sharing the news about Trump’s ban of transgender people in the military, consider the following.

- This is not a future hypothetical in which we need to protect people who want to be in the military. There are trans military serving as we speak. There are trans veterans waking up to this news.

- Are you framing your posts with a call to protect trans people? Similar to #ProtectTransKids — while this means well, it also infantilizes the trans community. Stand with trans people. Support trans people who have been fighting for their rights. See the difference?

- What do you do to support trans people? I don’t need answers, but I want you to think about whether you:

- Actively use peoples’ pronouns both when they’re around and not around. Do you correct other cis people when they misgender someone? Use their deadname?

- Do you intake media by trans people? TV? Books? Articles? Art? Music?

- Do you laugh at jokes like Trump being made up with makeup? Do you realize this is transphobic? Do you perpetuate the idea that trans women are really men, even in the most innocent, subtle way?

- Do you know about the epidemic of trans women of color being murdered in the U.S. and beyond? Do you share these articles? Do you sad react them? Do you avoid them?

- Do you actively use your privilege as a cis person to make the world better for your trans siblings?

Trump is trash garbage. But he is also one man of many cis people who live in privilege. Some of the biggest perpetrators of transphobia I’ve experienced are my very own cis LGB siblings.

You likely won’t get Trump to stop being terrible. But you can look in the mirror and be better.

The more people that take up this work to be better, the more people that truly support trans equality and justice = the less transphobia, transantagonism, and anti-trans laws and policies will come into our world. Until they are squashed for good.

As a trans non-binary person myself, I am not above self-reflection and bettering myself when it comes to dismantling the transphobia and transantagonism I was taught growing up.

That is to say: I have work to do, too. Will you join me?

You can follow Angela’s social justice musings on Twitter and Facebook.

This piece was originally published on Call Me They and has been republished on Huffington Post.

Angela Dumlao was recently featured in NBC Asian America’s inaugural #RedefineAtoZ list of emerging Asian American and Pacific Islander voices for their dedication to inclusive activism. As a queer trans non-binary first-generation Filipinx-American theatre artist and activist, Angela’s focus is on affirming and uplifting marginalized folx and their intersectional identities. Angela is the creator of the social justice Facebook page Call Me They, which was featured on Brit and Co. and Planned Parenthood’s Pink Out / Power Up! for their trans and gender non-conforming inclusive #ShePersisted viral image shares. They are the director and co-producer of the one-woman show Post Traumatic Super Delightful (PTSD) which has been featured with Glamour Magazine’s Top Ten College Women, Marie Claire Magazine, and Autostraddle.com. Angela graduated from Vassar College with a degree in Psychology and Drama, where they were awarded the Molly Thacher Kazan Prize for distinction in Theatre Arts. They are also a proud member of the Filipino American Democratic Club of New York and alum of GenSexNYC, The Welcoming Committee, and The Powerhouse Theater. Angela lives in Brooklyn with their partner, Caitlin.

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