6 THINGS TO DISCUSS WITH YOUR PARTNER BEFORE GETTING MARRIED

Getting married is not an easy job. It requires the coming together of two persons in a bond of a lifelong relationship. Initially, it might seem very exciting and fun-filled with all the dreams sketched in the mind but with time, as the magic dies down a little, important logical stuffs arise, seeking consideration. Are you planning to get married? Do you have enough things in common like friends, interests, hobbies, similar family background? Are you all satisfied with your knowledge of the person you are going to marry? Sometimes, this is just not enough, especially when, in the long run, life throws curve balls at you and you don’t know how to save your relationship. Here are some important things that you must discuss with your partner before getting married.

1. Finances and savings

This is a very crucial factor in marriage, albeit a little less talked about in the family. You ought to find out the socio-economic background of each other and how the respective families address money; what is more important for each one of you to spend money on; ideas about combining finances but maintaining separate accounts at the same time; how you plan on budgeting an saving money. Legal issues are another thing you must consider; for instance, the changing of maiden name after marriage or keeping it all the same. It’s essential that you talk such factors related to money and law before you get married.

2. Parental responsibility

It goes without saying that you must take care of your parents when they are old. It also seems a very good idea to take care of your spouse’s parents at the same time. Thus, this is an equally important factor: the looking after of parents. You must let the other person know about your plans regarding your parents and family. You can decide to either stay together with them or arrange for a nice, warm place. Also discuss the different roles you’re expected to play in your immediate or extended family and whether or not you can stick to them.

3. Career

In the present age, it is only obvious that both partners will be working and career-focused. Gone are the days when you would expect the woman to stay back at home and perform all the domestic chores from managing household to little ones. Therefore, talk out the ways by which you are going to divide the inside-home and outside-home between yourselves. Find out your working hours and schedules so that you can handle the family together. If any one of you has any intention of going abroad for studies, discuss it with your partner.

4. Sex and children

Partners will have different opinions and experiences with sex, some positive and some negative. With the change of time, space, emotions and libidos, conversation on sex becomes an important factor. You need to know how your partner considers sex in marriage, ideas on monogamy and infidelity, whether or not your partner has a previous marriage and children. If yes, how is he/she planning to deal with it? The next thing to talk about is the children factor. When do you want to have kids? How many kids do you want to have? These are some of the questions you can talk of.

5. Medical health

If you have suffered from a disease or have passed through some kind of trauma, speak it out to your partner even before you are asked. Such psychological and physiological stuffs can have impact on your later married life.

6. Cultural backgrounds

If you belong to a different cultural/religious background, you must talk of the various rituals and ceremonies, whether you can practice them or cannot carry them out.

Such discussions before marriage will not only strengthen the faith in each other but also pave the way for a better relationship. Once these things are settled down, you have to arrange for food, clothing, decorations etc. And certainly, photography is an important part of every wedding ceremony. Hire a reliable wedding photo booth and frame your wedding memories at your home.

Marriage is like a garden that is not always greener on the other side but greener where it is sufficiently watered. So, water your married life with more love and trust and build a haven of dreams for each other.