You’re missing the point of why people are saying to talk to other people. Everyone assumes that by voting for Trump, you are a racist or bigot yourself and will condemn someone for it. 95 percent of them weren’t. No one wants to understand WHY people made that vote.
Middle America feels forgotten and being left behind by manufacturing companies leaving the US and the government not providing these communities with the resources to get a job in this new service economy. Trump is the candidate who spoke directly to their needs regardless of the candidate’s societal views, so they made the vote.
The goal of talking to these communities is to understand where they are coming from and what their problems are so that in future ejections, they aren’t boxed in and forced to vote for a candidate like Trump.