BY CAMMI PHAM — First appeared on my personal blog

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I thought about throwing plates. But there is a problem. Who will clean them up?

Maybe I should destroy a dress. But my clothes are rare vintage pieces. They are not replaceable.

Maybe I should pour scotch. But I am craving for apple martini and I don’t know how to mix. Forget alcohol.

Maybe I should eat. But I am already chubby. Who will pay for my personal trainer? Diet programs are expensive.

It was 6:30 p.m. He was still nowhere to be found.

He managed to make me so…

BY CAMMI PHAM — First appeared on my personal blog

This was the script for my TEDx talk — The Four Sins Of Success.

I have a confession to make.
I cannot hide it anymore.
I have committed a lot of crimes.
This is the reality.

I lied. I cheated. I stole. And I killed.

You must be asking why I have committed such horrible crimes.

All my life, I have seen countless smart, and hardworking who are unsuccessful. I cannot count how many unsuccessful people who are chasing their passions.

I asked myself what are the real keys to success?
And I realize they are to lie, cheat, steal and kill

Life is just like riding a bicycle, if you stop moving you will fail.
If you don’t ride a…

BY CAMMI PHAM — First appeared on my personal blog

“Amore, I want my daughter to be exactly like you.”

“Don’t, she won’t have a good life. Smart women often don’t finish first,” I replied with an attitude.

“Her path will be smoothly carved, don’t you worry about that. Why do you think I still work 15 hours a day?”

I said nothing and sighed.

That is the difference between him and me.

He wants to give her the best, I want to prepare her for the worst. It scares me that he will give her too much. …

BY CAMMI PHAM — First appeared on my personal blog

It all starts with you.

Don’t be a victim. Don’t make excuses. People don’t care about your problems.

A three-time millionaire who came up from nothing, dropped out of college with average IQ, said:

“The real inequality is the level of personal drive and intelligence.”

I framed the quote and have it on my desk to remind myself everyday.

You are poor. You are an immigrant. You live in a small town. You didn’t have rich parents. You are Asian. You are Black. You are a woman. You are homeless…

BY CAMMI PHAM — First appeared on my personal blog

I love a girl who swears because she expresses herself freely. She tells you what she thinks. Life is not a beauty pageant where you put on a fake smile to please men. (Massachusetts College of Liberal Arts)

I love a girl who swears. It helps her feel less pain. Swearing is cheaper than any short-term pain relief. Did you know that, swearing helps with cold-pressor pain tolerance, pain perception and heart rate too? (Keele’s School of Psychology)

I love a girl who swears. Swearing is the emotional language. She…

BY CAMMI PHAM — First appeared on my personal blog

The next time you are in pain, give yourself 5 minutes. Scream. Cry. Do whatever you want.

Then stop at the 5 minute mark.

And start turning that negative energy into actions.

Some days, we are sad.

Another day, we get mad.

Other days, we feel jealous.

Then there are times we miss someone.

There are moments when we want to hurt people. We feel so much hate.

Other times, we feel depressed and think the world is over.

These are common feelings that can show up daily or when we least expect them. They create negative energy in our lives.

People often say we need to eliminate the negative energy. There are entire…

BY CAMMI PHAM — First appeared on my personal blog

I was born into old money. I grew up with new money, and now I have no money.

I was born in a third world country, Vietnam. Many years ago, my family was very influential and wealthy. During the war, a lot of our properties were seized or some would call it ‘long term rented’. However, I was lucky because both my parents were entrepreneurs. They built successful businesses and were able to provide me a good life. When millions of kids did not have food to eat or clothes…

BY CAMMI PHAM — First appeared on my personal blog

Your first 100 blog posts will mostly suck.

Your first 100 podcasts will mostly suck too.

Your first 100 talks will not be perfect.

Your first 100 videos will be nightmares.

Nobody can pick up a ball and become a pro basketball player overnight.

Nobody can pick up a pen, then write and win a Pulitzer Prize right away.

Nobody is interesting during their first interview.

Nobody will walk on the stage without saying a few things wrong.

Nobody learns how to walk after the first step.

We all suck in the beginning.


Children can do what most adults fail to do.

We always…

BY CAMMI PHAM — First appeared on my personal blog

Don’t date a man who reads. He will be interesting. Your romantic dates will be like Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland. Your late night conversation will take hours to end. He will throw ideas and expect you to bounce something back. Brain exercises are not for the lazies.

Don’t date a man who reads. He is fine spending time on his own. He can entertain himself for hours with or without you. A Brief History of Time might be your worst enemy. You might wonder if he is having an affair…

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BY CAMMI PHAM — First appeared on my personal blog

My mother taught me never to give unsolicited advice, nor try to help anyone unless they ask you for it. I always thought that maybe she was just cold. As I get older, I have started to realize that she was right. My mother is one of the kindest people in my life.

Society always emphasizes on the need to help people. I do it too.

They tell you that you should help people unconditionally and when they least expect it. None of that is, of course, wrong. Random acts…

Cammi Pham

Unlearner. Marketer. Partner @ Growth + eCommerce Marketing Agency @ThinkRenegade | Write

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