
…fferent ballgame, and this is where things get way more complicated. Insecure attachment means that because of inconsistency in the parenting they received, these folks go through the world with an embodied presupposition of mistrust towards relationships.
If you want to run an experiment, go find someone with a growth mindset and tell her that she’s terrible at something. Watch what happens. She’ll become instantly inquisitive. “What could I be doing differently?”, “Who’s someone that’s great at this thing?”, “How do you think people get good at this thing?”, etc. At no point will she become offended by your criticism, and in fact she’ll probably thank you.