Stop Trying To Be Gary Vaynerchuk

Oops, I said it. I’m relatively new to the whole tech scene, but I’ve been here long enough to see that almost every single social media marketer, entreprenuer, VC and business man idolizes Gary Vaynerchuk. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that, but there’s a problem when you’re not being yourself.

I’m a huge fan of Gary so don’t come after me on Twitter or in the comments. In fact, I think I mentioned him at least 3 times in some of my other articles. He actually pushed me into getting my foot in the door of tech. So I’m not here to bash him or his any of his followers. Gary always says that not everyone can be like him, or even try to live a life like his. But I guess a lot of people don’t take that statement to heart.

I’ve seen comments from people who actually want to be him. “I wish I were you.” “I want to be an ‘overnight sensation’ like Garyvee.” You can’t expect yourself to work 20 hour work days like Gary if you have 3 kids. You can’t build a million dollar company if you weren’t meant to. He’s the type of guy that can work those crazy hours and live the life he does. Now you can definitely take his advice and implement it for yourself. You just can’t be the man.

This goes for every other celebrity figure out there. You may not be obsessed with Gary but you could be obsessed with trying to be the next Steve Jobs, Michael Jackson, Bill Gates, Donald Trump (I hope not), Walt Disney etc. These people are each their own person, just like you. If you can’t paint for your life and you know it, stop pushing yourself from trying to be the Picasso. If you still can’t play the tuba after 10,000 hours, stop trying to get into the New York Philharmonic. Stop trying to be something you’re not.

Instead of trying to chase after a life you can’t have, invest in the life you do have. What sets you apart from other people? Put time and effort into building the skill set and character you have. Believe it or not you’re better at something else than the next guy is. Only you would know it though. I’ll apply Gary’s advice here. Or I should say, Abraham Maslow’s advice.

Back in 1943, the famous pyschologist, Abraham Maslow, had a theory and crafted it into a pyramid. Out of that process came Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. At the very top of the pyramid is the highest need, self-actualization. You need to know yourself inside and out. Know what makes you tick, know what you love and know what you hate. If you knew what you were capable of you could potentially put yourself in the position of living a whole new, better more successful life. According to Maslow himself, “What a man can be, he must be.” Which is basically saying, “Be yourself”. So I think the understood main point in this article is to be yourself, nothing more nothing less.

“Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be. Embrace who you are.”