The Elements of Love
THE ELEMENTS OF LOVE
So, here’s the thing. We all seek love. we all seek to BE loved.
I seek to have people understand that as an essence of Love, it is our greatest expression.
When we think of love, and then act from love, we are within the highest spaces of love.
And in this space there is only peace.
And in truth peace is what we ultimately seek to have within our life.
It stems from knowing sharing having and being of love.
You can imagine that in what I do, I draw a lot of conversation about Love.
Love of Self.
Love of another person.
Love of Life.
We talk about love in many ways.
But heres the thing…. that in seeking LOVE, one must understand that LOVE is not a stand alone word.
And it most definitely isn’t JUST a word.
Love is actually an action that comes from the elements that create it.
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Let me explain — to most commoners we think when we get butterflies in our tummy from looking at a person that we are in love. Mostly its lust.
We think that when we ‘fit’ with someone sexually, or that it tastes darn good to kiss, or that we can smile in each others company that we are in love. That when we can have a good conversation with someone and laugh or be stimulated intellectually that we are in love.
BUT — whilst what you are feeling is the beginning of love each of these are simply components of love.
There is so much to love, that for us to really be successful with love their is much to consider.
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You can imagine when I get the couple who come in squabbling saying to me oh yes but i do love him/her, I have just been cheating on her/him, or yes i get angry and abusive, or yes i hide this or that ..
and I immediately put up my hand and say — please — don’t call it love — when these are your actions!
Basically…
DONT SPEAK OF LOVE WHEN YOU DONT KNOW IT!
It frustrates me that we aren’t taught all that there is to love, that we must expand upon and grow in — in order for us to truly connect to another with love, as love, from love.
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LOVE is the act that stems from your ability to connect to a person, with tolerance and patience and trust and respect and compassion and regard and FORGIVENESS.
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If you aren’t able to operate from all of these aspects of love then you aren’t really knowing love.
FOR THEY ARE the pieces that contribute to LOVE being the action.
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When you begin with the flittering of love and the twinkles that allow you to say YES lets explore this..
Thats when all the other components come into play.
That you then have respect for every piece of that person, trust in every way, that you honour them and regard them as a priority in your life, that you know when to tolerate and how much to tolerate that you can have patience and that you are willing to forgive.
MOSTLY that compassion leads this and that PASSION fires this.
All of this together is love.
When you say I have been unfaithful — then components of love are missing that have led you to NOT be fully connected to your partner any more.
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It is not about falling out of LOVE its about the lack of what love IS that sees you slowly coming to disconnect.
There is so much that makes up love, it is the intricate details and the seeing and finding of all that is spectacular to the heart and in honour of that you expand yourself and all that you are to all that is around you and share that in action.
In being. In doing.
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The elements of love are full and for you to begin with them, you MUST begin with yourself. Without this, without knowing respect from your own self first, being patient with your self, knowing forgiveness of your self, then you are missing the very very beginning of the learnings of love.
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The elements of love are all that make up our ability to LOVE.
Learn them. BE them. Act them out. Make love the greatest that you know for it is the greatest that you can ever express.

