I’m so happy to answer your good question.
The pre-forplay consists of:
setting the space for intimacy to happen. Imagine having sex when you still are angry or are or frustrated. How great would it be?
The two “secret” steps are:
The first: Relax together and allow yourself to express what is present in the moment for you. Enhance it with your breath if it’s uplifting and let the opposite go. Doing this opens your heart is open.
This sets you up for the second “secret”:
The soul-gazing, Which is a Tantric practice that reaches energetic union between two lovers or two friends by gently letting themselves be seen.