Little Girl

Little girls don’t know much about life. They don’t know who they are or why they exist. When asked about tomorrow they smile, because smiling is what little girls do. Some day the little girls will start to grow up and that expectation will change. Soon comes the day when a smile is no longer an acceptable answer to life’s complex questions.

What is to become of these little girls when society pushes and pulls them to become someone they are not. Once a delicate being with raw emotions, now tarnished and patinated by time. Some will find themselves drawn to the complexity while others will turn away. The need to put these girls in little boxes that are easily categorized and defined will conflict with their desire to grow.

She will one day ask, “Do little boys ever feel like this?”

The answer is no. Little boys are expected to achieve greatness. When a little boy claims he will be a super hero when he grows up, no one questions his goals. Then when they mess up or divert from their path to greatness, society simply laughs, “Boys will be boys.”

There are whole theories that surround the struggle to gain power over little girls. Many look to God as if “his” almighty plan had envisioned females as the weaker sex. Yet science tells us otherwise. For when little boys get physically injured, they crumble. Whereas little girls were conditioned to endure pain.

The sensitivity to subtlety is where the little girl shines and in this difference is where they are most valuable. A little girl is trained to read emotion, called to respond to pain, and epathetically hears what others are saying. She has no boundaries when it comes to sharing emotion until she starts to grow older and becomes silenced by the gender roles of society. She is taught penmanship is more important than math, poetry should trump science. The balance of details is divided into subjects for her to digest slowly. There is no room for chaos, even though chaos will be her biggest challenge throughout life.

By the time she reaches adulthood she will be filled with doubt. Her roll within society will change from student to wife to mother and her contribution will be the home. She will be passed over for promotions due to her family obligations and when her parents fall ill, she will be expected to take care of them. Cooking, cleaning, and shopping will be tasks to fill her free time. The fear of chaos will keep her on task as spark and curiosity that once filled her eyes fades to nothing.

She will raise her daughter the same way she was raised. She will send her to the same schools and teach her all she knows about cooking and cleaning while her sons play ball and dirty the knees of their pants. She will teach her this role of being a woman in society proudly. She will teach her self control.