It’s probably the easiest behavior to adopt.

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What if I told you it’s possible to lose weight or prevent weight gain without changing what you eat or how much you exercise? I’ve often been asked “where I put” the food I eat. Although genetics and exercise play a part in my weight maintenance, in answer to where I put some of those calories that don’t make it to my stomach or thighs, I would have to say into water.

It’s a good test to make sure food is what you’re craving.

Years ago, when I was a young adult, I told my mother I was hungry and she asked if I had drunk any water lately. That got me…

After last week, it’s going to be much harder for white supremacists to hide behind the flag or their self-proclaimed love for the police.

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I grieve for the lives lost in the siege, mainly the Capitol police officer and the woman who was brain washed into thinking the attempt to help Trump stay in power through force was the right thing to do. At the same time, it’s starting to seem almost like this type of thing almost had to happen in order to stop the systemic gas-lighting of regular Americans.

A lot of us have been aware for a…

Sometimes it’s what we leave behind that makes our lives richer.

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Have you ever heard the phrase “Let go and let God”? You don’t have to be religious to benefit from letting yourself give up some control in your life. Holding on to habits that are no longer beneficial can stifle our creativity as well as our life satisfaction. Over the years, I’ve given up the following things and it has improved my quality of life.

1. Unnecessarily rigid schedules

My carefully scheduled fitness routine is now a thing of the past after having been a slave to fitness all my adult life. It’s not necessarily that I worked out more…

Just like the muscles in our bodies, relationships gain strength when challenged.

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Looking back on a long-term relationship that I thought was going to be “the one’, I recall that we actually both bragged about the fact that we never argued. Now I’m starting to see how that contributed to its dramatic ending.

After spending the last portion of those years in an increasingly emotionally unhealthy place, I finally ended it and got on with my life, subsequently making some internal changes in order to prevent history from repeating itself. I’m doing well so far on a personal vow to not shy away from conflict, when it’s warranted, and am already reaping…

This particular virtue is one of the most important tools for mental health.

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At different times in my life, I’ve made some bad decisions when letting impatience get the best of me, just because I had to be doing or planning something. In quite a few of those situations, if I’d done nothing and just gone about my business, things would have turned out better. Regarding the rest, if I’d given it a day or two to cool off, I would probably have made a better choice.

Let it be

After I freed myself from those impulsive thoughts, that I used to think of as control, good things started happening. I worked on…

Adding it to my regimen is the best fitness decision I’ve ever made.

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Thirteen months have passed since I did my first yoga workout. That $3.38 Goodwill video has become a game-changer for this 50-year-old with chronic back problems, even on top of a lifetime of workout variety.

Feeling the tension exit my spine from the top of my neck to the bottom of my tailbone is a great feeling, especially in this historically stressful autumn. Doctors say it strengthens and stretches back muscles, which keeps our spines healthier. I’ve been visiting the chiropractor a lot less during the pandemic; a development which, before starting yoga, would likely have put my back out.

Instant results

Our country is collectively descompressing.

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Ahhh… how relaxing it is to watch the evening news show President-Elect Joe Biden’s first round of cabinet secretary choices. So nice to see people with experience in the agencies as well as career backgrounds in public service. The country is already calming down. I can’t be the only one who’s noticed the lack of notable organized violence after the election, in a huge contrast to the past few months. One might even observe that when the candidate with the most votes actually wins, things feel more peaceful.

It’s such a relief after Trump’s tumultuous…

When we’re in an emotionally healthy place, what’s in our head IS what’s in our heart.

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The “bad boy” vs the reliable guy. The fun job vs the stable career. Sometimes we think about letting our head make a choice or letting our heart make a choice when in reality, it shouldn’t be one or the other. In emotionally healthy people, the head and heart are pretty much aligned.

Some decisions take conscious thought no matter how emotionally well put together we are, but those are the minority. That’s why if you have an extremely hard time making a choice on a regular basis, or find yourself regularly making decisions that you later regret, you may…

and the predicted civil unrest is a non-starter

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The presidential election polls were right, at least in deciding the winner. They correctly predicted 48 states’ as well as the overall winner, although the margin was lower than predicted. However, this election was not close. Trump got walloped. Biden leads by 5 million votes and 3.3% already and that lead will grow by the time CA is done counting. He got 290 electoral votes, likely 306 after GA finishes up. And those aren’t the only reasons all the worry about how “divided” this country is a little exaggerated.

It’s almost like…

Carolyn Bertolino

A woman who likes to read and write about personal well-being and national issues.

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