How To Let Go Of Things That Are Not Meant For You
- Keep a Journal
Journaling can teach you a lot of things. Write about your feelings and what causes you to feel this way. After such, go back to reading what you wrote, and from there you would realize what’s holding you back. According to Loran Hills of TinyBuddha.com, “There is a lot of power in the written word but occasionally words are hard to find. Drawing or making a collage have been able to create a representation of how you feel that moves beyond analytical writing.”
Give yourself a time to sit and breathe. Reflect on your feelings and the things that hold you back. Breathe in and out. According to Vyda Bielkus of MindBodyGreen.com, here’s how you can do an effective meditation that can clear out your blues.
1. Sit in an easy cross-legged position, with your spine tall.
2. Bring your hands in front of the center of your heart, with the base of your palms touching each other, the thumbs touching each other, and the pinkies touching each other (lotus mudra).
3. Bring your focus to the tip of your nose, or to the center space between your hands.
4. (Optional) Play a healing mantra while you meditate. One of my favorites is Gurunam Singh’s “Guru Ram Das.” You can also just use your own breath to focus your meditation.
3. Talk to yourself and create affirmation phrases
Healing always comes from within. You need to make phrases like, “you can do it” or “roll with the punches, because tomorrow’s another day” to keep on surviving and winning each day when you feel like you’re going back to your old thinking. According to Ronald Alexander of Huffpost, “An affirmation can work because it has the ability to program your mind into believing the stated concept.”
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4. Use symbolism to get through it
A friend once told me that writing your feelings in a paper and burning it will help you get over and move on. If you’re going through a breakup and an unhealthy relationship, gathering all the things that remind you of this person and throwing it, should help you. But this is always not the case. According to Joan Vaglica of College Candy, “It’s easy to erase his existence by throwing all of his crap into a garbage bag, leaving it curbside and calling it a day. For others, who can stare at his pics for the next three months, it’s seriously time to move on.”
There are a lot of ways on how you give up these valuables. You can donate or just give it away.