Growing up the oldest of four, and the only female, I was constantly reined in by both parents on my looks, clothing, actions, etc. And that still didn’t stop the sexual abuse or the foul-mouthed offers and ogling stares.
Adolescence is awkward enough without the constant self-vigilance necessary to “control” the actions of older males. And you are correct, Ms. Matti. Young girls (my development started at 11, 12 years old as well) are not responsible for the actions of others. That line of thinking leads directly to the notion that there is no such thing as rape IF you concede that females are, in fact, solely accountable for the sexual urges of males.
That may be a fact in the animal world. However, we are human beings with reasoning and free will. And if men are NOT accountable for their most basic impulse, then they really shouldn’t be in charge of anything at all now, should they? Recent indictments of Congressional legislators appear to make that clearly evident.
It’s taken me fifty years to regain a sense of control over my own body and myself. I really want my young nieces and other young females to have such power and authority over their own physicality NOW rather than later.