The wedding rituals or court marriage? What’s more practical
In India a lot of emphasis is laid on ritualistic wedding with all the customs and traditions being celebrated in full vigor and enthusiasm. However, over the years the traditions and customs are slowly losing its significance as the youth today don’t understand the significance of these traditions; so many are slowly but steadily turning towards having a court marriage. The quintessential question lies in which is better or more importantly what is more practical?
Pros and Cons of ritualistic wedding-
In India marriages are an occasion of family reunion, old ties being renewed and some new ones being formed. It is a celebration of not only two individuals but also two families. It is every girl’s dream to have a perfect wedding with all the pomp and show associated with weddings- from the sangeet, cocktails to the mehendi and the main wedding. She wants to dress up, enjoy each ceremony to the fullest and create memories for a lifetime. It brings together both the families, which is boards well in the long haul. Also, it helps to keep alive the age old traditions, which have been observed so well over the decades.
However, a lot goes into planning and executing a wedding. It needs one to have the finances and also the physical capability to execute such a wedding. In India, still old customs are being followed where the girls side has to take on the wedding finances, this could prove to be a huge financial drain on one side of the family. There are other aspects as well that play a vital role in the Indian society like dowry. In India still in most part of the country dowry is an accepted norm and in a ritualistic wedding it cannot be avoided.
Pros and Cons of a court marriage-
A lot of youngsters are going in for court marriages today as it is a cheaper and an easier way of getting married. It only involves signing on a legal document with two witnesses from both sides. There is no unwanted splurging of money. It works well for those who are not religious and come from different backgrounds. Also, those from humble backgrounds are increasingly opting for court marriages as they do not want pressurize their families into paying for the wedding. It avoids calling thousands of guests who you are really not close to. Most divorcees like to have a court marriage as it is a quieter affair. Infact, there is a lot of information on this on the matrimonial sites for divorcees.
However, in India many do not find court marriages to be scared. Since in India a lot of emphasis is given to family and traditions, having a court marriage only seems to go against this age old thought. It does not involve any bonhomie between the families, no fun and frolic. A huge sect of the Hindu community is not in favour of court marriages it as it goes against the whole belief of the religion.
Marriage is a bond of love, whether it is forged in courts or in the full blown ritualistic way. The right of decision lies with the two individuals getting married as it is their journey. A more practical and economical approach would be to go in for court marriage but it would not involve any fun and cheer that is usually associated with weddings.