Parenting Transgender Kids

The panic of parents new to trans experience

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I think some parents learn about their kids being trans and panic, thinking now they have this whole new thing to face.
Everything was fine, and now this.

Maybe a reframe would help.

You HAD a major thing all along. Eating at your kid from the inside.
Now you know what it is, and you can DO something about it (support, validate, facilitate, affirm, de-shame).

I just took my Prius in. Turns out the thingamawhatsit needed replacing, and the whattchumacallit needed cleaning. (I don’t know much about cars LOL). Now my little Sky runs smooth as butter.

Your kid being trans is not this scary thing that just happened now. It’s this heavy thing your baby has been carrying for years. Now you can tell them "OMG, no wonder you were struggling. Here, let me help you carry that."


Cassie Brighter

Activist. Public speaker. Writer. Community Organizer. Mom. Creator & Host, Empowered Trans Woman Summit. Managing Editor,

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