Weight Cliches

[ Body-shaming is so not cool]

I had a great summer. I mean who doesn’t love waffles and grill all month long, biking into the sunset, watch the sun set into the sea…………What else do you do in Europe? The mouth-watering food, the great weather, the amazing people (for me there was also a large period of time where I sat listening to Dad’s sermons). I gained weight as a part of the summer package but when I came back home I didn’t feel as confident I was back in Finland. The usual people I met said I became fat. One of them told me I should eat less.

It felt like a wave of weight cliches. The word “fat” has become more of an insult. Is it because the cynics consider it insulting? Or just because we take it the wrong way. I thought there was something wrong with me for sometime now. Was I fat? No. Was I obese? No. Did I workout? Yes. Then why did it bug me so much? I came to understand about the word “fat” and how it has been made synonymous to an insult. Why is it a big deal to be skinny? I have noticed that this issue lingers with the in-betweeners as I call it or as the world identifies us as women with curves. The daily exercise of getting into my skinny jeans is the perfect example. Your waist is 25 but you still have to shimmy. So when someone calls us fat we tend to cuss the love handles and curves. It hits us hard. I have grown to understand that this cycle won’t stop and the word “fat” will stay a cliche.

That is because our mind tends to take it the wrong way, as an insult. God knows the person who said it really meant it or just did not like you. There is nothing wrong with not being a total skinny person or eating what you want. What is wrong is that we try changing ourselves because someone said something.Trust me I have been there. No amount of crash-diets, diet-suppression pills or too much exercising made me feel good about myself. I felt great when I ate what I loved and worked out to stay healthy. So this time when the lucid comment came my way again it bummed me but I shrugged it off. Thanks to an amazing friend who gave me a perplexed “What?? Are you kidding?” Healthy is not over-weight, it simply means you love yourself enough to eat right and work it out.

Spread the love, turn down the body shaming,

KAT