Immorality of Child Abuse

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Moral development at an early age begins when the misbehaving child realizes that they have done something wrong. In situations like these, parents play a big role in disciplining their children so that they understand not to act that way again. Popular methods of showing children that their actions have consequences may include grounding, giving them chores, or making them stand in a corner of a room for five minutes straight while facing inwards. Unfortunately, in order to discipline disobedient children, a number of parents around the world choose to go down a violent or more hurtful path, abusing their child, and causing them mental and/or physical damage.

An important point for parents to remember is the concept of either teaching your child to fear or to respect. The difference is that, while fear can possibly prevent children from disrespecting adults, respect is a trait that children need to learn how to be a good listener, as well as a good leader for other children. Fear prompts anger. Children who fear their parents usually grow up to form bullying habits and think that the only way to make someone listen to you is to make them afraid of you. They also often lie to their parents to hide the fact that they had done something wrong. This destroys the relationship of the parent and the child, which can have a great impact on how this child treats others in the future, as well as it destroys the child’s mindset, which should be influenced by optimistically, especially from a young age. Teaching children to respect is a way to do so. This can be done by speaking to children calmly and educating them about what it takes to be a good role model by being the role model themselves. Children who learn to respect their parents tend to be more honest and will begin to respect others, have self control, and develop patience.

When a child disobeys, punishment may force them to rethink. If he or she experiences something that frightens them because of the way they have acted, they might not dare to do it again. One way to “frighten” children is to spank them. For years, spanking as been a controversial issue around the world, leaving some people thinking that it is the most gentle way of punishment for a parent to make their point, but others disagree, saying that spanking children constantly could make their children think that it is okay to hit others when angry. It wears the children out emotionally, and the shock they feel from it may cause fear, which, like aforementioned, is not the right way to discipline a child. But when does punishment become too extreme? Every year, at least one million children around the world are being mistreated by their parents, and many children can die in abusive households. These children are taught by being forced to reconsider their actions through their parents’ violent actions and even verbal harassment. Parents who want to satisfy their anger and frustration by hurting their children can cause a great amount of emotional damage for these children, who may become aggressive themselves, as their parents had been.

Children who have been physically abused use the same methods of violence to solve their own problems. Hitting other people or objects will be a go-to calming down technique. Not to mention, physical abuse creates scars and injuries. Verbal abuse has a stronger impact on young children because their self esteem is at risk. Growing up thinking that nothing they do will ever be good enough leads to the lack of perseverance and confidence. Abuse like this can cause childhood trauma that will have an impact on the child’s growth and development, possibly for the rest of their lives, and having had trust and family issues while growing up, these children will have problems with their future relationships as well. Children grow morally by learning to accept others and to be humble. This is disturbed by abuse because abuse starts with selfishness. Parents who care to satisfy their own cruel needs before showing any empathy for their own children and showing children what it is like to be thoughtless and greedy. Being abused at a young age can cause an insecurity problem that can lead to thinking that it is okay to neglect a human being.

Child abuse is immoral because the unerasable damage that is left behind hurts the child’s perspective on life and relationships with others, and should absolutely not be an option. The person you are is a reflection of the environment that you grow up in. Being abused can make a child think that they are not loved or cared for, and as mentioned before, being treated with respect forms a respectful person. Fear, however, causes emotional damage and increases the chances of dishonesty and aggression. Children are fragile at the age that they are, and anger should not be what influences their future actions.