What Sorry Means

When trying to apologize, it’s far more important to listen. Regardless of how you “meant” it, the other person is hurt. In this moment, that’s all that matters. Don’t defend yourself or state your case. A simple “I’m sorry, and how can I make it better next time” are the only words that will be helpful. Defending means you think your feelings are more important or you need to be “right.” Someone you love is hurting, and it’s because of you. Why you did something couldn’t be more irrelevant in that moment.

I’m sure it’s been said before, but love is a verb, not a noun. You can’t love someone without continuous action in showing them. Not sometimes, not when it’s convenient, but everyday! Even after years together, never forget to make them feel as loved as the first day you met. From the smallest gesture to the big occasions, that person needs to know they are loved above everything else. Work, your busy schedule, or any other distraction is only doing that. Distracting you from what’s most important. The love for that person is why you’re doing it all in the first place.

The love of your life is not an easy thing to find. Hold on to it with all your might. Make everyday about what they need from you that day. And when you don’t get it right, ask how you can be better. Don’t ever get the idea what you’re doing is enough or a replacement for simple love and affection. There is no replacement for that.