The Things You Pay Attention to Dictate Your Happiness

“You will act like the sort of person you conceive yourself to be” — Dr. Maxwell Maltz

Cayla Vidmar
Apr 20, 2018 · 2 min read

In this article you’ll learn:

  • That thoughts or ideas you fixate on becomes habit
  • What you fixate on becomes your reality (even the negative stuff)
  • How to use worry to get the life you want and overcome negative self-image

I look outside my window. The neighbors trailer is an under-hand-rock-toss away. Not that I’ve tested this theory, I’m not the kind to throw rocks at people’s houses unwarranted.

It’s just a little trailer park, the people here are a hodge-podge of college kids, gray-birds that come up to the mountains for the cool summers, and the working class, like the hubby and I.

I pull into our gravel driveway, see our little red trailer in all her age and glory, with the hummingbird feeders blowing in the breeze and the lucky horseshoe, and I smile a little.

Someone else might pull up and think white-trash.

But I see our little home, with the fur-kids peeking out the window. There are flowers, a green lawn and a trail behind the house that goes into National Forest.

If I was still the person I used to be, I might see our home and feel shame. But I am not who I used to be. Though this is not where I envision myself ending up (oooh no, not even close), I recognize it for what it is: a stepping stone to my growth.

You see, I don’t pay attention to comparison and my lack like I used to. I don’t haunt myself with thoughts of failure: let me count the ways I don’t measure up.

I’ve realized over the years that what you give your attention to flourishes, and what you deny, wilts. This works for your betterment if you’re focused on positive things, or for your failure, if you’re an awfulizer or worrier.

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