Run Your Morning or Your Morning Will Run You

“Sometimes you climb out of bed in the morning and you think, I’m not going to make it, but you laugh inside — remembering all the times you’ve felt that way.” –Charles Bukowski

How do you start your day?

Do you hit snooze multiple times before getting out of bed?

Do you jump into Instagram, Facebook or email before the coffee even starts?

Are you frazzled and rushing out the door, barely grabbing a bite to eat?

Or, do you wake up with plenty of time, but don’t maximize that time to your best potential?

How you spend the first 20 minutes of your morning compounds and dictates the rest of your day.

Every day is the rest of your life. Every morning you get the opportunity to choose your own adventure.

If every day, your adventure includes hitting snooze, reacting to other people on social media, or their agendas via email, you’ve already lost the day.

Below is a series of options we’re faced with every day. It’s your choice, but only one option will get you everything you want. Choose wisely.

Choose Your Own Adventure 1: Self-love or Indifference

“Respect yourself and others will respect you.” — Confucius

Morning routines are an act of self-love.

Every day you spend frazzled and rushed, being emotionally reactive and stressed (due to social media and checking email first thing), your wellbeing plummets. We’ve all had those days where we feel like we’ve been kicked in the shins before we’ve even poured our first cup of coffee.

But when you decide to dictate your morning, to spend the first part of your day dedicated to your emotional wellbeing, mental and physical health, and making your dreams come true, you’re showing yourself immense self-love.

When you decide that your emotional wellbeing is more important than checking social media, or letting your email hijack your morning, you’re respecting yourself.

You know what happens when you respect yourself? Other people respect you.

As Aram Rasa Taghavi says, “Days where I felt Big, they’d treat me Big.” When you respect yourself by dictating what you spend your morning doing, you show up to life feeling in control.

When you feel in control, you play big, and other people pick up on that energy and treat you as such.

So I challenge you to choose self-love by staying off social media and out of email until you’ve done at least 3 things that bring you to your highest self.

Other people treat you how you treat yourself. Act accordingly.

Choose Your Own Adventure 2: Mindfulness or Misdirection

“Thought is energy; concentrated thought is concentrated energy. Thought concentrated on a definite purpose is power.” — Charles F. Haanel

Meditation is a powerhouse, and you can access this power at any time during the day. But beginning the day with such focused and divine power can change the course of your entire life.

Spending 20 minutes sitting still in silence or while listening to focused meditation music, or chanting, is like plugging yourself into Universal energy and into your intuition.

Show me a person who can practice controlling their monkey mind (the incessant chatter that goes on inside your head) for 20+ minutes a day and I’ll show you a person who has deep self-control.

That is a person who can achieve their dreams.

As Lao Tzu says, “the best fighter is never angry.”

The victorious warrior is one who has deep control of the mind. Spend 20 minutes a day practicing this kind of mental control and see how it overflows into your daily life.

When you have control over your mind, you are less inclined to be emotionally reactive. You make choices that resonate with your highest goals, instead of being hijacked by other people’s agendas.

Your goals and intentions for life are at front and center; you never lose focus because you spend every morning staring your mind in the eye through meditation.

This is the goal: to own your mind entirely and belong to yourself fully. One of the ways we practice this is through meditation.

Choose Your Own Adventure 3: Record It or Forget It

“A self is not something static, tied up in a pretty parcel. . .finished and complete. A self is always becoming.” –Madeleine L’Engle

We measure how far we’ve come by recording it. Humans are imperfect beings, we are mighty forgetful.

That’s why we choose love over and over again, even though we can still taste the metallic tinge of heartbreak.

We forget the pain and try again. So while this forgetfulness is useful (it would be a sad, lonely world if we never loved after a broken heart), it’s also damning.

By recording things, we can track the data. We can be accountable to numbers and trends; we have a harder time being accountable to memories that fade.

Which is where journaling comes in. By recording our daily goals, our gratitude, our intentions and where we hope to be, we manage our futures.

By recording the past and present, we dictate where we end up. What gets measured, gets managed (remember?).

We are constantly changing and growing, but true success lies in remaining focused on the end goal, even when the details change. This is why journaling is such an effective morning routine. It keeps us focused on the bigger picture, while letting the rest of the minutia fall away.


Every day you get one shot, one opportunity to dictate the course of your day. It starts as soon as your alarm goes off.

You can either control your mind, or let other people dictate your emotions.

You can either stay focused on the end goal, or you can deviate wildly by being distracted.

You can run the morning, or it can run you.

So what will your adventure be?

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