You are NOT your bucket list

We buy things, we party, we jump off cliffs, we go on holidays, we move to different cities, we switch jobs — but what changes inwardly after these things have been fulfilled?

Stop. Breath. Ask yourself, are you wasting your life trying to chase your bucket list?

Don’t pressure yourself into doing all of these things in one shot, your life is not a Nike slogan, who really cares. By living simply it still means you can be happy so do the things you truly want to do not what you ‘should’.

“All too often, we feel that we are not living the fullness of our lives because we are not expressing the fullness of our gifts.” 
— Ella Luna, The Crossroads of Should and Must

We do not live in the 18th century anymore. No one cares about your social status, what people do care about is your character and skills. The careers that you will dabble in throughout your life do not define you as a person, connecting with your passion and ambitions is what will define you.

Life is not about money, positing photos on social media or your job – life is about connections, experiences, love, relationships, sharing and caring. Focus on yourself and character. Life is a gift enjoy every moment of it.

“I couldn’t spend the rest of my life, let alone another year, feeling complacent and going through the motions at a job that didn’t excite me just because it was easy and comfortable” 
— Anonymous

Ask yourself, what were the most important things you have learnt about yourself in the last 12 months. Do you care too much about what others think of you, find it hard to stay in one place when things get monotonous or maybe you find it hard to let go of a loved ones emotional state?

What qualities do you want to explore in the next 6 months — mediation, self-control, giving yourself some head space? Be mindful and remember life is about using the whole box of crayons. When you look back at your achievements in five, ten, twenty years time and say “I did some cool shit”, you can give yourself a big ol’ pat on the back.

Now finally, name 2–3 people that have had a positive impact on your life. This might take some time, or maybe for some of you no time at all, or maybe the names of people that you want to exclude from your social circle come to mind first.

… this is where your bucket list is born.

“Don’t shrink from new experiences and custom. Take the cold bath bravely. Enter into the spirit of your big bedroom. Enjoy what is and not fine for what is not. Read some good, heavy, serious books just for discipline: Take yourself in hand and master yourself. Make yourself do unpleasant things, so as to gain the upper hand of your soul. Above all remember: your father loves you and believes in your and expects your to be a wonderful woman.”
 — W.E.B.Du Bois, letter to his daughter

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