I think caring is great, it’s a sign of love and cannot be destructive. I think attachment is destructive. When you feel or believe that a person, a thing is yours. When you think that this will be forever. When you think you’re entitled to something. That’s destructive. People are just making up stories in their head that are just not based on how the world works. That’s why the recovery time is longer.
I got your point anyway :). Just wanted to differentiate the feelings. Caring is good.