But when you teach people not to give up, you also need to teach people how to move on from things that aren’t serving them. People who don’t give up and who don’t move on relentlessly pursue goals without the ability to adjust course.
Value means more than approval. When you value someone, you see the real person and the unique contributions they make to your company, your family, or your life. You don’t rate or measure them according to some standard. You appreciate what they’re already bringing.
When we do something we love, and do it well, then importance doesn’t matter as much. There’s no need for us all to become millionaire success stories. Most of us just want a job we like, and enough cash to splurge on booze and sushi every now and then.
…ure, our boss never values us highly enough. Our friends take us for granted. But not all the time. Sometimes, we just think we’re hot shit. For no reason. It’s the adult version of running around the house with a cape made from your bed sheets. Look, everyone. I’m hot shit.
It’s only when we’re fretting about the future or reminiscing over the past that life seems too short, too fast, too out of control. When your attention is invested in present-moment experience, there is always exactly enough time. Every experience fits perfectly into its moment.
As we become adults, we tend to take on more time commitments. We need to work, maintain a household, and fulfill obligations to others. […] Because these commitments are so important to manage, adult life is characterized by thoughts and worries about time. For us, time always feels limited and scarce, whereas for children, who are busy experiencing life, it’s mostly an abstract thing grownups are always fretting about. There’s nothing we grownups think about more than time — how things are going to go, could go, or did go.