Being afraid of finding the one for you

I was unlucky so far in finding a lover whom i can live the rest of my life. And then all of a suddenly it happened! I have turned 28 years old this January and since then my parents are pushing me to get married. I have skipped those talks and made excuses so far. But they keep on fixing dates and changing dates for my marriage even if i haven’t started looking for my “going to be” life partner on matrimonial sites (that’s how we find and fix bride for arranged marriage).

I am talking about arranged marriage here. I never thought much about marriage so far. But now it seems so obvious that i will have to marry someone and fix my life with the chosen one. Then all the tension came in realising that the chance of loving any girl is going to be diminished to loving only one. And i have to be extra careful about selecting that one.

I remember one of my married friend saying that if you are fixed to someone for marriage, think that she is the best and most beautiful women you can get in the world. That seems good enough for a while to calm down my mind for a short while, then i asked him again what if you find a better one in the next part of your life. He said once you start loving the person you married, you will stay committed and won’t have any second thoughts.

Well i believe i will have to take a leap of faith to this thing as, if what my friend told was absolutely right there could not have been divorces or marriage problems. Luckily divorces and related problems are not common here. So he is mostly right and i pray i stay on the positive side after marriage.

Best wishes to me!