My Vulva Is Melting (And Yours Might Be, Too)

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7-year-old me in the midst of watching a Mystery Diagnosis marathon on TLC. (Gif from GIPHY).

“So, your vulva is kind of… melting,” my gynecologist said from between my legs.

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My mother, consoling me after that gynecologist swabbed the ulcers in a way that screamed, “That’s what you get!” (Gif from GIPHY).

Despite each of these things, I was pretty shocked by my gynecologist’s proclamation.

A licensed medical professional had just told me that my vulva was melting, so at that rate, I figured anything was possible.

So… what the fuck?

“None of this is your fault,” my doctor said, probably to break the silence between us. “These are all symptoms of a condition called lichen sclerosus.”

Lichen Sclerosus

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What is it?


  • Itching to the nth degree
  • Small white spots on the skin (early in the disease)
  • Thinning and lightening of the skin
  • Tearing, bruising, or bleeding from minor rubbing of the skin
  • Changes in vulvar architecture (such as the disappearance of the labia minora and tightening of the skin due to the growth of scar tissue), indicative of advanced disease
  • Pain during or after sex
  • In severe cases, blistering and ulcerated sores

Itching? Probably a yeast infection.

Pain after sex? Probably too rough.

Blistering? Well… maybe it’s time to see a doctor.

Shoutout to that doctor for opening my eyes to the idea of speaking up during sex and advocating for my own damn body! Never would have thought of it on my own! (Gif from GIPHY)




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Slow cooking in the crock pot of life. Writing about its many spices on The Baked Bean

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