“In the end, we can all acknowledge that sexual compatibility is important while understanding that sex doesn’t have to be about just one outcome.”
No truer words have been spoken. It’s like the idea of JUST yes or no. Hence the idea, of “maybe” in a discussion. Things are not just black or white…Just think of a box of crayons…such a great variety of choices. I believe the same is true in life. We are not just LG but LGBTQI.
So many times, I here gays/lesbians gripe about Bisexuals. As if, being Bisexual is just a “transition” between Str8 and Gay. The great part about life is that you can be Top/Bottom/Versatile. And even in those 3 categories, you have varieties…..70% Top/30% Bottom, etc.
I have been with guys who just “wanted to cuddle”, or were just “into foreplay”. It’s unfortunate that so many gay men believe that it’s only full-on sex when there is penetration. I think there are just too many gay men that get “set in their ways” when it comes to sex. I have always believed that it’s all about both partners being satisfied. This is where the word “compromise” comes in.
Hopefully, as we go further into the new century, the younger gay men/women will learn to broaden their horizons, when they first com out. I have always believed that “the only constant in life is change”. So, best to get used to change, and learning new ideas, while we are young. Then, as they grow older, they will be better able to “flex” to the varying ideas when it comes to sex and sexuality.
