Why don’t we ask one another whether or not our partner has ever violated someone else’s consent? Why don’t we ask each other if we’ve ever been abusive towards anyone? Why don’t we ask if we’ve raped anyone? Why don’t we ask our partners if they’ve ever been abused or traumatized? Whether or not they’re asexual or demisexual or aromantic? Why don’t we talk about how our libidos compare to one another? Why don’t we discuss what sex and intimacy is from our perspectives?