I USED TO LIVE IN A PRETTY BOX
I used to live in a box.
Not on the street like a box a homeless person might use for shelter.
I just lived in a box
It was a pretty box. I made it look good, I would decorate it and dress it up or down depending on the occasion. I always took care of it.
I had to because I was sure everyone was looking at it. Talking about it. Whispering something to someone else about it.
I had to make it presentable and nice. Otherwise they might not like it, those other people.
Like one of those cardboard toy robots that kids can put together themselves. Little buttons down the front that if you pushed one, it would encourage me to do something. Make me do something.
But the face always had a big wide smile across the front.
I realise now that I had lived in this box from about the age of 7. Not too sure where it had come from but I didn’t question it. It just was.
I also had a few friends living in boxes too so it wasn’t unusual. I wasn’t strange.
Day to day we lived in these boxes and every morning we made them look pretty and presentable.
And even though the box was painted brightly it always felt dark inside. Quite scary and unknown.
A little bit ugly and a little bit sad so I tried not to think about the inside too much.
Sometimes I didn’t understand what it was doing. It did what it wanted and I had less and less say. That’s just the way it was.
As I grew up the box got a bit shabbier.
It was awkward living in it. When getting from A to B it would catch on things and the edges would fray.
But people were still talking about it so I had to make sure it stayed presentable.
I reinforced it, made it thicker and endlessly taped over the cracks. Then painted over the tape.
Always making sure it looked just right.
By the time I was 33, I was so used to living in that box I didn’t even notice it anymore.
That is until the day I looked into a mirror and it wasn’t there.
Tears. So many tears. Not because I’d lost it. Because I was seeing myself for the first time.
Those tears were pure shock.
I had been mistaken. That sad, worrying thing that I’d been scared of. That was hidden in the darkness inside that box.
It wasn’t ugly or scary.
It was so beautiful. It was perfect. It was whole and complete.
It had never needed to be in a box.
And now I realise. I had no control of that box forming around me at 7 years old. I was defenceless. It had just appeared one day.
I looked down around me on the floor to see if I could see it.
I spotted it. It was small and broken apart and flimsy.
I couldn’t throw it away. I had to keep it. Keep it safe as a reminder of all those years I had lived inside it.
Because now I know: I had to spend 26 years living in it.
Without those 26 years I would never have appreciated what I was. I would never have seen the beauty and I would never have been grateful.