Life is what You make it

LIFE — the word which makes us to feel that we are alive. Otherwise we often forget that we are alive in this world due this everyday rushing life. Most of us never think that whatever they are doing, why they are doing. .they just don’t know. .when we ask this type of question to any person, most of them start thinking why they are doing that thing. This is fact. Try this with yourself also. .I am sure you will also feel that. .isn’t it??

With the birth on this Earth, our childhood starts. No one is known to us at that time. From that time, our permanent memory starts storing data like parents and many more things. In short, it’s like you are buying new laptop, after buying you start personalizing it by putting personal information, passwords etc. You can compare childhood with that new laptop in some things not all. You care for that laptop more when it’s new, like this we were cared by parents in childhood much more due to our delicacy. At that time, our innocence and pureness in thinking is at the highest peak point.

With the growing up day by day, our ‘masoom’ness decreases. In the childhood, we do only those things which we want to do on our mind. As we grow up this mind gets restricted by many things surrounding us. First of all, elders starts restricting that ‘free mind’ by guiding it as ‘do this’ or ‘don’t do’. This starting “do’s and don’ts“ makes our thinking limited. As we further grow up, other things come in life to restrict our inner voice like friends, teachers etc. Somewhere we start changing ourselves according to advices and we ignore our voice of the soul.

As our title says, what we do make our life in that way. Anyone’s life can change drastically at any moment. .I agree. But generally 98% people’s life takes turn in the age between 14–22 or you can say 14 onwards. .as I think so. The years from 10th are said to be turning point of life, I have personally listened these things. It can be turning point of life also, I don’t deny, but actually elders want to say it as ’the turning point of career’. Most of the students live ‘pressurized’ life 14 onwards at least till the age of around 22 when they get their graduation degree. What I mean by ‘pressurized’ life. .that you can easily understand. Classes, tuitions, college and the last but not least thing called ‘expectations’ screw up the life of student as they get into this age. But some students never get into this mess. Here is one interesting thing to observe. .physical things like classes don’t give much burden compared to mental things like expectations. There are many other mental things leave severe effects on us compared to physical ones. But why it’s like that? Because our heart, is connecting thing between our soul and body. The heart, which can hear our inner voice, leaves back long lasting effect on us.

But very few on this earth got that power to listen to the heart. And whoever listens to it, he/she can enjoy life along with making of it. I don’t mean that who, doesn’t listen to it, don’t make their life. .of course they may make but can’t enjoy. I would like to discuss those mental things which may change our life after age 14, mainly peer pressure and crushes, love, infatuation or whatever you would like to call it. .

As we grow up, many friends start entering our life then that may include boys and girls also. Peer pressure is that thing between friends which makes front one change. But how it happens? For example, if your friends don’t like your some habit, friends can say it freely to you. Even they don’t say you to change it, you think it to be changed. Because your heart may have fear that if we are not like our friends then we may lose them from our life, for which our heart doesn’t permit us. So we try to change it according to our friends. This pressure can change you to good and worse also. .actually it all depends upon you. One more interesting thing here. .for a boy, peer pressure from girl can make him change faster as compared to pressure from other boys and vice versa also. I donno exactly why it’s like that. .but its fact. .and all have to accept it.

Many people comes in your life as friends. Most of them stays there with you for some span of time and then they leave. Very few stays with you till the end. Why it’s like that? The following conversation may explain it, at least to youngsters who may understand it well. .

I think I should not write much about crushes, love etc. because it may stimulate you. .Yeah I said correct. Crushes, love is just a stimulation which makes you excite to do different kinds of things. For example, if a message comes from other side, you just can’t stop yourself for a minute also without replying or checking the last seen of front person again and again. What are these examples point out? They are just reactions towards stimulation. Now one more bitter truth. .during the years, which are turning point of career, many just resist these love, crushes even they experience that feeling inside them. Because they want to concentrate on studies. I have seen live example of this case during my intermediate. One of my friend used to listen to a song by Hustler to divert his mind from stimulation towards studies even he had feeing of love or crush for someone. I remember some lines of it very well, they are as follow. .

Pyar Pyar Pyar, Kuch Nhi Hai Yeh Pyar,
Pyar Mere Yar, Kar Dega Barbaad. .

From this I just wanna tell that anyone’s mindset can’t be changed just by restricting feelings of the heart. I am saying this generally not only in case of love or crush. You can’t convince your heart for doing against what it wants to do. And even if you convinced it somehow, it can’t stay away from that thing for long. So, always listen to your heart for any work, then you can work much better. Haa. .but one thing. .these stimulations like love, crushes can be obstacle for you on the way of your destiny. They can bound you by certain limits. Now how can it bound? That’s another long way topic.

I think this is enough about stimulations. At last, I would say that don’t just live life but enjoy it. I would like to end this with the lines of Javed Akhtar from the movie ‘Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara’ –

Dilo me tum apni Betabiyaan leke chal rhe ho to Zinda ho tum
Nazar me Khwabo ki Bijliyaan leke chal rhe ho to Zinda ho tum
Hava k Zoko k jaise Aazaad rahna sikho
Tum ek Darya k jaise Lahron me Behna sikho
Har ek Lamhe se tum milo kholo apni Bahee
Har ek pal ek nya Sma dekhe ye Nigahe
Jo apne Akhoo me Hairaniyaan leke chal rhe ho to Zinda ho tum. .